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Frank G. Funeral Message,

April 5, 2000

(Frank G., early eighties, died from heart disease. He had been a member of the church for many years, but did not receive the Holy Ghost until he was in his fifties.)

Frank G. was not a simple man. In his early years, he endured a difficult and near-poverty childhood amidst other painful conditions. He was forced to quit school and find a job to add support for the family. Later, he joined the Navy to forge a new life for himself. He became fiercely independent, self-reliant and determined to achieve certain goals in life.

Although his formal schooling came to an abrupt end, his keen mind never stopped working. He continually engaged people around him in mental exercises, mathematical quizzes and riddles. He often met me in the aisle of the church after service and put deep questions to me about the scriptures, especially those that dealt with faith and belief. At the end of those discussions, I was always humbled by a statement that he would make to me as he grabbed my hand and cried. "I trust you, Brother Jordan!"

Frank was deeply introspective and thoughtful. He searched out answers to why things were the way they were and why people did what they did. All his adult life, he asked questions about life. Perhaps the real motivation behind this was an attempt to sort through issues of his own life, many of them rooted in his childhood. From time to time, he would say, "I feel like there are two men struggling inside me."

But God has a way of bringing his own enlightenment into our lives and questing minds. For Frank, the pivotal incident that took place in his life that assured him of the existence of God was in a ferocious storm at sea. The huge ship he sailed tossed to and fro like a piece of cork in a tub of water. Gigantic waves, eighty feet high, crested and crashed over the vessel, threatening to send it to the ocean floor. Frank prayed fervently that night. "God, if you will just save me from this storm, when I get home, I will serve you." Sure enough, when he arrived home from the navy, he began to go to church.

Yet, Frank battled with dark personal and emotional issues which were deeply imbedded in his life. For years, he came to church, but never totally surrendered his life to God. But, in 1976, after praying countless times at an altar over thirty years, God filled his life with the Holy Spirit. I was there that night, and I witnessed the miracle for myself. What a testimony to perseverance!

None of us are perfect. Frank G. had his share of human frailties and faults. But God is faithful. Frank always wanted prayer and Bible-reading. Last Friday night, the answers he continued to search for finally showed up. Evidently, the things God really wanted to reveal to Frank could not be expressed in this life. He transported Frank to a better place where the brilliant light of God's glory even now is opening up the mysteries of life and eternity to someone who always wanted to know "why?" When the family came to his bedside where his still form lay, they did not see pain or struggle etched across his face. Instead, they saw the picture of peace and contentment, the image of a relieved and happy sailor coming in to harbor from a tempestuous sea.

God gives each of us a unique life.

Psalm 107:21-31 Oh that men would praise the LORD for his goodness, and for his wonderful works to the children of men! 22 And let them sacrifice the sacrifices of thanksgiving, and declare his works with rejoicing. 23 They that go down to the sea in ships, that do business in great waters; 24 These see the works of the LORD, and his wonders in the deep. 25 For he commandeth, and raiseth the stormy wind, which lifteth up the waves thereof.

None of us can choose the circumstances, or the beginning appointments and accoutrements of our lives. We wake up from our childhood and find ourselves afloat in calm or storm, among the rocks and sea predators or in protected waters, free from harm.

God permits experiences in our lives to make us.

26 They mount up to the heaven, they go down again to the depths: their soul is melted because of trouble. 27 They reel to and fro, and stagger like a drunken man, and are at their wit's end.

Who among us would choose the storm? If we could, we would avoid all the pain, the damaged emotions, the illnesses, the bitter losses or agonizing defeats. But God knows that each of these hardships and difficult experiences in our lives are like the refiners fire. They bring out the real mettle. The trying times have much more to do with who we are than the easy times.

But God allows us to make the choices that define us.

28 Then they cry unto the LORD in their trouble, and he bringeth them out of their distresses. 29 He maketh the storm a calm, so that the waves thereof are still.

The best choice any of us can make is to "cry unto the Lord." We are no match for the monstrous waves. The sailors who return from a life and death struggle in the high seas, come back humbler and changed. Those who take on the fury of life without the guiding hand of God, cannot survive.

Our choices determine the destiny that awaits us.

30 Then are they glad because they be quiet; so he bringeth them unto their desired haven. 31 Oh that men would praise the LORD for his goodness, and for his wonderful works to the children of men!

The destiny for every individual includes not just a certain departure from this life, but also a sure appointment with the judge of the whole earth. The Bible says, "It is appointed unto man once to die, and after that, the judgment. Since we do not have the ability to save ourselves, all of us must look to the Lord Jesus Christ and his sinless blood for our salvation.

Frank has gone on to his reward. He made his peace with his maker, he settled the sin question, and trusted in God. But the real question is no longer about Frank G., husband, father, grandfather, friend. It is a question that only you can answer.

The greatest value of a funeral is not just to honor the person that died. It provides a solemn moment for all of us to peer into the face of our own destiny. It is to consider our own mortality and decide here and now that we are going to do something about it. We did not give ourselves life, nor did we have control over all the experiences we have faced or will face. God does, however, place the power of choice in our hands, and permits us to determine our own destiny on that basis.

The scriptures teach, and Frank G. believed and practiced, Repentance from sin, water baptism in the name of Jesus, and the infilling of the Holy Spirit. Jesus is the way, the truth and the life. The choice is yours.

2 Corinthians 5:1-11 For we know that when this tent we live in now is taken down-- when we die and leave these bodies-- we will have wonderful new bodies in heaven, homes that will be ours forevermore, made for us by God himself and not by human hands. 2 How weary we grow of our present bodies. That is why we look forward eagerly to the day when we shall have heavenly bodies that we shall put on like new clothes. 3 For we shall not be merely spirits without bodies. 4 These earthly bodies make us groan and sigh, but we wouldn't like to think of dying and having no bodies at all. We want to slip into our new bodies so that these dying bodies will, as it were, be swallowed up by everlasting life. 5 This is what God has prepared for us, and as a guarantee he has given us his Holy Spirit. 6 Now we look forward with confidence to our heavenly bodies, realizing that every moment we spend in these earthly bodies is time spent away from our eternal home in heaven with Jesus. 7 We know these things are true by believing, not by seeing. 8 And we are not afraid but are quite content to die, for then we will be at home with the Lord. 9 So our aim is to please him always in everything we do, whether we are here in this body or away from this body and with him in heaven. 10 For we must all stand before Christ to be judged and have our lives laid bare-- before him. Each of us will receive whatever he deserves for the good or bad things he has done in his earthly body. 11 It is because of this solemn fear of the Lord, which is ever present in our minds, that we work so hard to win others. God knows. (TLB)

The circumstances of life are given to us.
God permits the experiences of life to make us.
We choose the way we will respond to our experiences.
Our choices determine our destiny.

(Prayer)

 

Funeral Message for Harold R., Jr.

December 28, 2001

(Harold R., 64, died suddenly of a heart attack. He was saved in his middle adult years and became a deacon.)

2 Samuel 3:38 And the king said unto his servants, Know ye not that there is a prince and a great man fallen this day in Israel?

When General Abner died, King David visibly mourned for him. The circumstances of his death were much different than our loss today, but the sentiments were the same. David wanted everyone to understand the stature of the man he called a prince and a great man in Israel.

The character of Harold R. Jr. cannot be fully captured by any single word or phrase. As an endlessly resourceful entrepreneur, he thrived on the challenges that the business world and marketplace continually threw at him. As the founder and owner of two major businesses, he managed his way through daily crises and succeeded where many had failed. As a leader and mentor, helped and coached (some might say pushed and prodded) many younger people he brought on board with him to success.

As husband, father and grandfather, he took great pride in going above and beyond the call of duty to provide everything he possibly could for his family. No one could ever question the love he had for his family. One of the beautiful expressions I heard after he died on Christmas Day was from his wife, Peggy. She said, “Harold, you made every day like Christmas Day for us.”

Harold R. was a man of action. He left the idle talk and lounging to others. His boundless energy kept him going from early until late, accomplishing his goals, setting new ones and constantly thinking about what needed to be done and how he could go about doing them.

Harold R. was the epitome of a giving and generous spirit. He faithfully supported his church and gave to many other charitable causes. Whenever he saw a personal need that touched his heart, he found a way to meet it. Not only did he give many financial gifts, he also gave people opportunity to work. He knew that the gift of a job paid the best dividends for them over time.

Harold’s love for hunting and fishing was legendary. The woods and the water called him often, and he responded with enthusiasm. Some of the grandest times he enjoyed with his sons, sons-in-law, friends, and especially his grandsons, were fishing for bass or trout, and hunting for deer or turkey. In fact, had the Lord not chosen a different course, they would all be in Alabama today, a hundred miles from nowhere, out on a deer lease.

I could go on talking about so many things. He was a trailblazer, a confident leader, a no-nonsense man with a tough exterior but a tender heart. To me, his pastor, he was a solid man of great faith. He had a strong interest in Bible prophecy and would fax me or give me an article from time to time about current events and their connection to the end times. He was one of our deacons, he taught Sunday School for many years, and faithfully engaged in prayer and Bible-reading.

On December 21, God called Harold to a higher home. We thought for a few days that he may stay with us, but the heavenward pull was too strong. The paramedics, the doctors and nurses did everything humanly possible to revive him, and hundreds of people prayed. No one should ever think, “If only we would have done more, the outcome would have been different.”

We may be tempted to think that Harold’s departure was too sudden, too abrupt, or even untimely. All of us who grieve, sense that a huge hole has been left behind. But Harold left this life like he lived it. Suddenly, without a lot of advance warning, he made his move. He always knew that timing was everything.

2 Tim 4:6-8 For I am now ready to be offered, and the time of my departure is at hand. 7 I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith: 8 Henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give me at that day: and not to me only, but unto all them also that love his appearing

Harold delegated well. It was one of his strengths. He must have thought that all the people he handed out jobs to were capable of carrying on. But, you will always have the feeling that, at any moment, he will walk through the door to check up on you!

Let me tell you what Harold did this week.

1. He traded this fleshly body for one that will not perish.

2 Corinthians 5:1-5 For we know that if our earthly house of this tabernacle were dissolved, we have a building of God, an house not made with hands, eternal in the heavens. 2 For in this we groan, earnestly desiring to be clothed upon with our house which is from heaven:

3 If so be that being clothed we shall not be found naked. 4 For we that are in this tabernacle do groan, being burdened: not for that we would be unclothed, but clothed upon, that mortality might be swallowed up of life. 5 Now he that hath wrought us for the selfsame thing is God, who also hath given unto us the earnest of the Spirit.

2. He traded his home in this body to presence with the Lord.

2 Corinthians 5:6-10 Therefore we are always confident, knowing that, whilst we are at home in the body, we are absent from the Lord: 7(For we walk by faith, not by sight:) 8 We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord. 9 Wherefore we labour, that, whether present or absent, we may be accepted of him 10 For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that every one may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad.

3. He traded death for life.

This may seem backwards, but let me explain. As to the penalty of sin, we are as saved as we ever will be. As to the power of sin, we are saved from that daily. As to the presence of sin, that is yet future for all of us. Harold has a life now without even the presence of sin being there in a spiritual paradise.

John 5:24 “ Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that heareth my word, and believeth on him that sent me, hath everlasting life, and shall not come into condemnation; but is passed from death unto life.”

In his resting place today, he awaits the final trumpet.

1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope. 14 For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him. 15 For this we say unto you by the word of the Lord, that we which are alive and remain unto the coming of the Lord shall not prevent them which are asleep. 16 For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first: 17 Then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air: and so shall we ever be with the Lord. 18 Wherefore comfort one another with these words.

4. He traded a world of war for a world of peace.

This has been a tumultuous year. We could almost envy anyone who escapes this strife-filled existence and enters into the realm that is ruled by the Prince of Peace.

Revelations 21:4 “And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.”

5. He traded the hurried pace of a competitive business for eternal rest.

Heb 4:9-10 There remaineth therefore a rest to the people of God. 10 For he that is entered into his rest, he also hath ceased from his own works, as God did from his.

Many lives have been touched by this one man. He taught people how to operate business in his line of work. He taught many of you here today how to hunt and fish, or how to do it better. He taught you how to work hard, do things right and be successful.

But these must not be the only things you learned from Harold R. His magnanimous spirit, his expansive love, his generous heart, his great faith were also there for you to receive if you could and would. Harold was a man of deep convictions. He didn’t preach his beliefs at anyone, and he accepted people for who they were. He never shirked, however, from sharing his faith when someone opened that door. He told them about his love for God. He told them of his love for the name of Jesus. He took that name on his life in the waters of baptism, and received the gift of the Holy Spirit.

And so, if you don’t follow him in business and lifestyle, in love for fishing and hunting, in leadership or politics, you can follow him in his faith. It was his faith that held the greatest return on investments. Harold R. believed this with all his heart. That’s why he never relinquished his grip on God.

Jesus is soon coming for his church. That’s what Jesus said. That’s what Harold R.’s bible said. That’s the hope that this prince and great man in a spiritual Israel possessed. And that’s the key to the great reunion with him that we are promised in God’s Word.

Let us pray.

 

Funeral Message for James A.

March 17, 2005

First Apostolic Church

(James A, 83, died of Alzheimer’s disease and an apparent stroke. He was saved later in life and became a deacon.)

The Book of James

2 Corinthians 3:2-3 “Ye are our epistle written in our hearts, known and read of all men: 3 Forasmuch as ye are manifestly declared to be the epistle of Christ ministered by us, written not with ink, but with the Spirit of the living God; not in tables of stone, but in fleshy tables of the heart.”

For those of who may not be familiar with Bible terminology, an epistle is a letter. In the New Testament, the letters are considered as books. Thus, we have twenty-seven books of the New Testament. In the text, however, Paul refers to another kind of epistle or letter, the kind not written with paper and ink, but lived out in the lives of certain people. These people were evidently so dedicated, so fervent, so powerful in following though with their convictions that they had the force of a book in the bible.

The twentieth book of the New Testament is the Book of James. Anyone who knew a man by the name of James A., knew that he was one of these people whose life was a living epistle. So, lying in state before us here this morning is the twenty-first century book of James (A.).

Sunday afternoon, when I stopped by the nursing home, James was finishing up his book and turning it over to the publisher. This idea of the book of James began to dawn on me, and so I started to look over the book of James in the bible to see if there were any parallels between it and James A. I discovered some amazing things. Out of the many references I could have used, I chose several that most closely resemble the life and character of James A.

James 1:6 “But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.” James was unwavering in his faith.

James 1:19 “Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.” James was a peaceful man.

James 1:27 “Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world.” James practiced religion in almost everything he did.

James 2:18 “Yea, a man may say, Thou hast faith, and I have works: shew me thy faith without thy works, and I will shew thee my faith by my works.” Good works. That is what James A. was all about.

James 4:8 “Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.” James was a Godly man. He read his bible through many, many times, often twice or three times in a single year. He loved to go to church, and he was never double-minded about his love for God.

James 5:16 “Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.” James was a Praying man.

These are just a few of the spiritual truths you could get out of reading the book of James in the Bible or our book of James.

Now, far be it from me to question the twentieth book of the bible, but there are some other truths that were spelled out in our book of James that didn’t make it in the original manuscript. I want to open this book up a read a little more to you. It may be a little strong for some, but I know James would want me to read it just the way he lived it. I could not do less.

There is only one God and his name is Jesus. James was a oneness believer through and through. He knew what the Bible taught about the Godhead and he could quote the verses that made the truth plain to see.

John 14:8-9 “Philip saith unto him, Lord, shew us the Father, and it sufficeth us. 9 Jesus saith unto him, Have I been so long time with you, and yet hast thou not known me, Philip? he that hath seen me hath seen the Father; and how sayest thou then, Shew us the Father?”

Colossians 2:9-10 “For in him dwelleth all the fulness of the Godhead bodily. 10 And ye are complete in him, which is the head of all principality and power.”

There is only one way to be saved. You must repent of your sins; you must be baptized in water, by immersion, in the name of Jesus Christ; you must receive the gift of the Holy Ghost with the evidence of speaking in other tongues as the spirit gives the utterance. All of this is according to Acts 2:38. Anyone who knew James A. knew that this is exactly what he believed. I wish I had a nickel for every time I heard him say, “I told them guys at work…” and then he would quote the book of Acts. Some people may have thought this was too confrontational, but the honest and sincere spirit of this man took any of the sting out of his witness.

There is a real heaven. John 14:1-3. “Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me. 2 In my Father's house are many mansions: if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. 3 And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you unto myself; that where I am, there ye may be also.”

There is a real hell. Revelations 21:8. “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.”

Jesus is coming again and it will be soon. 1 Thessalonians 4:16-17. “For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first: 17 Then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air: and so shall we ever be with the Lord.”

Luke 21:25-28 “And there shall be signs in the sun, and in the moon, and in the stars; and upon the earth distress of nations, with perplexity; the sea and the waves roaring; 26 Men's hearts failing them for fear, and for looking after those things which are coming on the earth: for the powers of heaven shall be shaken. 27 And then shall they see the Son of man coming in a cloud with power and great glory. 28 And when these things begin to come to pass, then look up, and lift up your heads; for your redemption draweth nigh.”

I could go on and on for an extended period of time discussing all the scriptural truths and doctrines that James believed wholeheartedly. I guess the best thing for you to do, and the thing that James would want you to do, would be to come to church and hear it preached and taught for yourself. But the thing that is most important to me this morning is for you to know that these eternal truths lived in the very fiber and soul of this man.

One of the last times I went to James and Ada’s house, I put my arms around both of them and prayed. Ada asked James if he knew who I was. He couldn’t say my name, but big tears welled up in his eyes. I knew he knew I was his pastor.

I believe James would want me to read a couple of other passages out of his book before I’m through.

Your soul is precious. It’s the only thing you have that will live forever. The efforts you expend on taking care of this body and living a life of pleasure in this world is all ultimately in vain.

Matthew 16:26. “For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?”

You have to make a decision. You can think about it; weigh it all out; put it off; try and walk away from it---but sooner or later, it will come down to a decision.

Matthew 27:22. “Pilate saith unto them, What shall I do then with Jesus which is called Christ?” Even though he was a pagan ruler, Pilate understood that he had Jesus on his hands and he could not turn the disposition of the case over to someone else. Oh, how he would have loved to, in the crucible of that hour, to be free from making this solemn judgment! No. It was up to him to say yes or no. So it is with every one of us.

When our own personal eternity starts, we will not be able to point to anything or anyone else as the precipitating cause for our soul’s destiny; not circumstances, not disappointments, not people, not habits, not relationships, life, nothing but our own personal decision.

In terms of decision, I have always been fascinated by a natural phenomenon, not far from here, on the eastern end of Lake Erie. That’s where the waters from the Great Lakes spill over into Lake Ontario. It’s called Niagara Falls. As you maneuver your boat in this strategic area, the current begins to pick up speed as it heads toward Thunder Alley, and then on to the falls. There is a certain point where your vessel becomes unmanageable and you cannot escape the current that pulls you inexorably to the falls.

James A. made his decision and I am convinced today that he is in the presence of Jehovah.

2 Corinthians 5:1-9. “For we know that if our earthly house of this tabernacle were dissolved, we have a building of God, an house not made with hands, eternal in the heavens. 2 For in this we groan, earnestly desiring to be clothed upon with our house which is from heaven: 3 If so be that being clothed we shall not be found naked. 4 For we that are in this tabernacle do groan, being burdened: not for that we would be unclothed, but clothed upon, that mortality might be swallowed up of life. 5 Now he that hath wrought us for the selfsame thing is God, who also hath given unto us the earnest of the Spirit. 6 Therefore we are always confident, knowing that, whilst we are at home in the body, we are absent from the Lord: 7(For we walk by faith, not by sight:) 8 We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord. 9 Wherefore we labour, that, whether present or absent, we may be accepted of him.”

The question that remains is what you will do with the message you have received from the book of James that has been effectively and transparently lived before you.

Let us pray.

 

Funeral Message for James Russell G.

November 26, 2005

Reeb Funeral Home

(James G., 60, died of lung cancer. He was raised in the church, baptized and received the Holy Ghost as a small child, a received a powerful, renewing experience late in life.)

In Philippians 2:25-30, the Apostle Paul writes of a little known man with the unfortunate name of Epaphroditus. I would rather just call him Jimmy. This disciple bore one main distinction---he was a helper, a servant, a man with a simple mission. You would think that a man with a servant’s heart would not merit much space in the New Testament, but the great Apostle interrupts the flow of doctrinal and theological revelation to make sure Epaphroditus received his just due, and perhaps to cement the significance of his role in the Kingdom of God.

25 But I think it is necessary to send back to you Epaphroditus, my brother, fellow worker and fellow soldier, who is also your messenger, whom you sent to take care of my needs. 26 For he longs for all of you and is distressed because you heard he was ill. 27 Indeed he was ill, and almost died. But God had mercy on him, and not on him only but also on me, to spare me sorrow upon sorrow. 28 Therefore I am all the more eager to send him, so that when you see him again you may be glad and I may have less anxiety. 29 Welcome him in the Lord with great joy, and honor men like him, 30 because he almost died for the work of Christ, risking his life to make up for the help you could not give me.

Here was a man who lived, not for himself, but for the benefit of others. Paul knew that the monumental task of the church—and the myriad of other little tasks—needed men like this, who, totally disregarded their own pain and tears to serve the greater cause.

A gentler or more selfless soul than Jimmy G. never existed. He had simple tastes. His life consisted of making life easier for others. He was always ready to share the bounty of his tomato, potato, cucumber and green onion (just to name a few varieties) garden, and his strawberries were his special delight. He hunted, fished, helped raise and train dogs, and he had stories to tell about it all afterwards.

He lived “on call.” Wherever he was needed---in the shop, in the yard, in the kitchen, down the street, driving the truck---or whoever needed him, Dad, Mom, brother, neighbor, friend---that’s where he went. Big jobs or little, it meant no difference. He was everybody’s helper, everybody’s extra hand, everybody’s friend. Without malice, without guile, without a personal agenda, he had nothing but kind words and best intentions for everybody. Even in the final stages of cancer, not one hint of a complaint came from his lips.

Jimmy loved and was loved. His brothers included him in on hunting and fishing trips, and they have stories to tell as well. More than once, on one of these trips, they would stop at a restaurant for breakfast. Jim would order a good-sized meal, eat every bite, and then push his plate away and say, “Buddy, I don’t have a dime!” But I have a sneaking suspicion that he earned every dime’s worth of food by doing more than his share of the chores. Jimmy was his dad’s constant companion. I don’t remember a time when Avery came to the church to work on a project that he didn’t have Jimmy with him. They were one and inseparable. On more than one occasion, Avery told the other boys, “If anything happens to Jimmy, it will take all three of you to do everything he did!” And no one in this life ever received better care than Jimmy did from his mother, Ethyl. My only question is why Jimmy wasn’t a lot bigger than he was with all the home cooking he had in her kitchen.

Early on, it was thought that Jim’s life would be sad, starting with that tragic day in the quarry when he saw a boyhood friend drown. That incident deeply affected Jim, and after that, his life unfolded along a different path than anyone might have predicted. A brief stint in the army didn’t agree with him and he had to deal with some other challenges as well. Finally, he came back home to settle into a routine that defined the remainder of his adult life. While it is true that he didn’t follow the usual pattern like getting married and having a family, he didn’t have an angry or bitter spirit as though he was cheated out of blessings that were rightfully his. He accepted his lot in life with uncommon contentment and boundless cheer. The poet wrote it in beautiful words:

The Plan of the Master Weaver

My life is but a weaving between the Lord and me,
I may not choose the colors,
He knows what they should be
For He can view the pattern upon the upper side,
While I can see it only on this, the under side…

Sometimes He weaves sorrow, which seems strange to me,
But I will trust His judgment, and work on faithfully,
It is He who fills the shuttle, and He knows what is best,
So I will weave in earnest, leaving to Him the rest…

Not till the loom is silent and the shuttle no longer flies
Will God unroll the canvas and explain the reason why -
The dark threads are as needed in the Weaver’s skillful hand
As the threads of gold and silver in the pattern He has planned.

My favorite story of the Master Weaver comes from the Orient where tapestries are the special products of many villages. It is said that the Master Weaver sits in the middle of the room, surrounded by his apprentices. Whenever one of them makes a mistake, he brings the work to the Master. The old man studies the tapestry until he figures out how the apprentice can incorporate the mistake into a greater design so that it would appear to the one who purchased it that it was supposed to be that way from the beginning.

When you step back and look at the life of Jimmy G., the divine genius of the Master Weaver wove a greater grace into the tapestry than we could have imagined. Out of the midst of bitterness, God brings forth sweetness that comforts us all. Finally, Psalm 84 takes this whole theme to the next level:

5 Blessed is the man whose strength is in thee; in whose heart are the ways of them. 6 Who passing through the valley of Baca make it a well; the rain also filleth the pools. 7 They go from strength to strength, every one of them in Zion appeareth before God.

There is no known valley in Israel with the name “Valley of Baca,” but a common shrub grows in the Middle East that is called the “balsam shrub” that some believe the Psalmist was referring to in the valley of Baca. This shrub, when it is crushed, produces a fragrance that is very much like a tear drop in appearance and texture. It is likely, then, that this reference means that many of us find ourselves passing through the valley of tears. Those whose strength and heart are in the Lord, however, don’t complain of the caustic, stinging effect of the tears, but rather make the place of tears a well, or a spring of water. The trials that could defeat us become the source of our victory; the questions that could drain us of life actually pour life into us.

Jimmy, instead of a burden, became a quiet source of joy to his family. He may not have been without his faults, but his heart was easily touched by the Spirit of God. Baptized in the lovely name of Jesus, God filled with the Holy Ghost many years ago, and in the last few weeks of his life, God took care of some things he struggled with for so many years. To his mother and father, no greater comfort exists than these spiritual blessings. Ethyl and Avery, he lived his life devoted to both of you, fulfilling a purpose that God ordained for him, and he was happy. Thank you for every act of kindness, every understanding word and every heart-felt prayer. None of it was in vain. To all his relatives, Jimmy leaves behind a legacy of unselfish duty and a generous spirit of giving. He was a credit to the G. and B. families.

Jimmy love to work in the soil with plants and living things. This morning, I read again in Revelations 22:1-2 about the scene in heaven.

22:1 “And he shewed me a pure river of water of life, clear as crystal, proceeding out of the throne of God and of the Lamb. 2 In the midst of the street of it, and on either side of the river, was there the tree of life, which bare twelve manner of fruits, and yielded her fruit every month: and the leaves of the tree were for the healing of the nations.”

Good gardeners like Jimmy are hard to come by, and maybe even heavens gardens need someone to take care of them. Do you think…?

Jimmy, we loved you.

Let’s pray.

 

Mark A. S.

February 17, 2005

(Mark S., 46, died with brain cancer. He was saved in his adult years.)

I was not there, but I wish I could have been.
To see Mark outfitted in his khaki’s and flannel shirt;
Waders, vest, straw hat, tackle box;
Sloshing through the noisy rapids;
Catching his balance after slipping on a rock;
His fly rod whipping the line overhead;
Eying the shadowed spot near the bank
where the brown trout may be lurking;
Soaking up the sheer pleasure of the experience.
He knew that the essence of fishing was not the catching,
It was just being there…in the river or on the bay.
The bona fide angler never gets frustrated.
He wins even when he loses.
He doesn’t measure his trip as a success or failure
Depending upon whether or not he pulls in the fish.
To present the bait, to engage the prey, to battle for the supremacy,
to laugh, or holler, or whistle or groan…that’s what he lives for.

John Eldridge says, in Wild At Heart,

“Life is not a problem to be solved; it is an adventure to be lived.That’s the nature of it and has been since the beginning when God set the dangerous stage for this high-stakes drama and called the whole wild enterprise good. He rigged the world in such a way that it works when we embrace risk as the theme of our lives, which is to say, only when we live by faith. A man just won’t be happy until he’s got adventure in his work, in his love and in his spiritual life.”

This morning, we have come together to reflect on Mark and weigh the impact he made on our lives. Some would call it a memorial, others may think of it as a celebration of a life. One thing seems clear, though. No sense of heaviness or a spirit of mourning clouds the atmosphere. Rather, it is an air of victory, the sweet triumph of a life well-lived that we recognize here today.

The life of one like Mark, however, cannot be considered in mere nostalgic terms, or simply in personal, sentimental reflections. His faith and love were too vibrant for that. The reach of truly good men transcends the limits of their mortality and continues to make a difference in the lives of those who succeed them.

In searching the scriptures over the past few days, I have chosen three of them that embody the principles and passions that Mark possessed.

Paul, that consummate Christian who authored much of the New Testament, wrote, “According to my earnest expectation and my hope, that in nothing I shall be ashamed, but that with all boldness, as always, so now also Christ shall be magnified in my body, whether it be by life, or by death. For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain.” Philippians 1:20-21. This is the way Mark lived. Few people that I have known have so seamlessly integrated God into their lives. His work, his play, his relationships, his faith, he breathed the word and will of God into everything. He approached it all “thoroughly, precisely, conscientiously…” For him to live was Christ.

Sometimes, the truths of Christianity may be stated in theological terms, or delivered in some homiletical masterpiece. The best evidence, though, in my estimation, is the life of a genuine Christian. Notice what Paul said about God in Christ. “For God, who com-manded the light to shine out of darkness, hath shined in our hearts, to give the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ.” 2 Corinthians 4:6. He then said, “For we which live are alway delivered unto death for Jesus' sake, that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in our mortal flesh.” 2 Corinthians 4:11. God has so ordered and ordained faith, that we would not stumble over the lack of seeing Jesus in the flesh. He has given us “earthen vessels” through whom we could see God so clearly, it would be as though he were still with us in the flesh. If you need evidence of Christ’s reality, consider his servant, Mark.

Mark was a Christ-like man.

Second, 1 Thessalonians 5:18 says, “In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.” In our age of affluence and entitlement, too many of us presume upon our rights, expect performance and too often resort to coercion when we don’t get what we want. Gratitude has nearly become extinct. Mark had a refreshing spirit of thanksgiving about him.

I vividly recall the day Mark and Mimi sat across from me in my office, holding hands and telling me about the new challenge of disease. At that point, it was still hard to talk about, and the grim reality had only started to creep up on him. He talked of the prognosis, of treatment, of hoping to beat it…but the tears that fell from his eyes did not diminish his awareness of God’s blessings. Just as the scriptures taught him, he continued to give thanks in everything, even in the most desperate of circumstances.

Somewhere in his relationship with God, Mark discovered a profound truth. When you accept that everything is a gift of God, including your life and breath, then you have no presumptions about your rights. You simply react with a grateful heart for all things God does give. Mark never complained about the life he didn’t have; he thanked God for the life God gave him.

Mark was a grateful man.

Last, I go to the passage Paul wrote about his final days. “For I am now ready to be offered, and the time of my departure is at hand. I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith: Henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give me at that day.” This scripture grew in importance to Mark as the days wore on. If you had a chance to see his note cards, you would have noticed his references to heaven. That eternal goal continued to provide inspiration for him. He believed fervently in this. He often read the words of Jesus when he said, “Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me. In my Father's house are many mansions: if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you unto myself; that where I am, there ye may be also.” John 14:1-3

But as heaven drew closer, the Apostle’s thoughts focused on others, not himself. “…and not to me only, but unto all them also that love his appearing.” 2 Timothy 4:6-8. “…and not to me only!” Here, the man many consider to be the greatest Christian who ever lived, who gained an abundant entrance into those glorious gates, was yet concerned over others. I saw that same magnanimous spirit in Mark. Throughout his Christian life, he loved to teach, to share, to help others know Christ. Then, confined to hospice care, with words, and prayers, and finally, gestures, he never stopped reaching out to others, he never stopped loving others.

Mark was a caring man.

No, I didn’t get to wade into the Au Sable River with Mark to fish. I was there, however, to see Mark walk into another river…the River of God, the river of Ezekiel’s prophecy…“waters to swim in.” He had a true “Book of Acts” experience, just as the early disciples received on the Day of Pentecost. I witnessed his baptism in water and in the Spirit. He was never tentative, conflicted or uncomfortable with his relationship with God. He reveled in the flow of the Spirit; he exulted in the name of Jesus; Openly expressing his joy of God’s glory. In the end, as Mark struggled against his disease, his prayer language that he received as a gift from God never failed him. Mark had no dark, calculated agenda, no list of selfish demands, no guile; With child-like faith, he simply embraced God---not as a problem to be solved---But as an adventure to be lived.

And now, what an adventure he’s having!

1 And he shewed me a pure river of water of life, clear as crystal, proceeding out of the throne of God and of the Lamb. 2 In the midst of the street of it, and on either side of the river, was there the tree of life, which bare twelve manner of fruits, and yielded her fruit every month: and the leaves of the tree were for the healing of the nations. 3 And there shall be no more curse: but the throne of God and of the Lamb shall be in it; and his servants shall serve him: 4 And they shall see his face; and his name shall be in their foreheads. 5 And there shall be no night there; and they need no candle, neither light of the sun; for the Lord God giveth them light: and they shall reign for ever and ever. KJV Rev 22:1-5

Let us pray.

Funeral Message for Pamela H.

May 28, 2002

(Pamela H. 74, was saved as a young girl and gave her entire life to ministry.  She was a pastor's wife and a celebrated musician.) 

Her Song Lives On

Hebrews 11:4 “By faith Abel offered unto God a more excellent sacrifice than Cain, by which he obtained witness that he was righteous, God testifying of his gifts: and by it he being dead yet speaketh.”

Pamela H. was an exquisite work of art. Her natural beauty in appearance was complemented by her gracious personality, genteel mannerisms and indiscriminate kindness with which she treated everyone she met. Among her many talents, she had tastefulness in interior decorating, in subtleties and shades of color and had a sense of balance in all things aesthetic. She was the kind of person who, when you received a present from her, you hated to spoil the package by unwrapping it.

The hallmark of Pam H.’s character was a true, Christian demeanor. She had no rough edges, and without calling attention to what she was doing, she brought the best out of difficult situations. She loved to laugh, and helped to soften the harshness of many negative circumstances with her ability to see humor in every situation. While serving the church family and her many music students, she also took much time to listen to their troubles and trials, and their dreams and plans. For many, she was an oasis of refreshing words, a calming influence in the midst of storms, and a constant source of affirmation.

Pam H. was a devoted wife, a dedicated mother, a committed grandmother, a faithful first lady to her church, an example of discipleship, a true friend, a peerless teacher and---everyone would agree---the very picture of femininity. She wasn’t perfect, but I can’t think of any of her imperfections at the moment. Well…maybe with the exception of being late for appointments. In fact, I understand that she was supposed to go to heaven a week ago, but she showed up a little late. I’m sure she gave the Apostle Peter a little apologetic smile as she finally passed through the pearly gates, and he, I’m sure, found her as irresistible as the rest of us always did.

Pam H. loved people, sacrificially. She remembered certain things people liked, and did her best to delight them with it. To her, the greatest modern development had to be the Meijer’s 24-hour store, because many times she could be found shopping at four A.M., trying to find something that she knew somebody needed or wanted. Audria and Adena were her special joys, and she spent many hours of her days doing things for them. Pam H. loved God. As you’ve heard, her entire life from a young teenager to the time she died was spent in the service of the King. Pastor H. told us Sunday that he still has vivid memories of her on the organ bench, hands raised to heaven, and surrendering true worship to God.

But, the music; ah, the music was the greatest talent God gave Pam H. Music interwove itself in and around her life with such fine reticulation that we who knew her could hardly tell the difference between the two. The sparkle in her eyes, the mischievous little grin that spread across her face, the melodious tones of her contralto voice, the enunciation of her words, as though she filtered her every sound through a built-in sustain pedal---all moved through the prism of music. The words of the prophet Ezekiel, in Ezekiel 33:32 could well have been written of her, “And, lo, thou art unto them as a very lovely song of one that hath a pleasant voice, and can play well on an instrument.”

Pam’s music artistry far surpassed ordinary practitioners. On the keyboard, she excelled in the art of accompaniment with beautiful arpeggios, chord changes and worshipful, rich background tones. Her innate talent led her to master other instruments like the saxophone, xylophone, Hawaiian guitar, cello and violin. Whatever piece she decided to play, she did so with a professional level of performance.

(Mozart was once asked how to compose a symphony. He told the individual, “You’re a young man. Why don’t you start out with ballads?” The man replied, “But you wrote your first symphony when you were ten years old.” Mozart responded, “Neither did I have to ask how.”)

Pam H. didn’t have to ask how. Music was in her. It was her life.

And so tonight, while we celebrate the life of Pam H., we also share the pain of her loss to us. Even at the age of seventy-four, she remained at the center of activity in her church and family, until she could no longer keep up the pace because of her health. An empty organ bench, a vacant spot on the pew, a place unfilled at the table, a favorite chair without a familiar occupant---all these may make us feel that death has intruded into the inner sanctum of happiness and dealt a devastating blow. The one person who seemed to embody everything right and good has been rudely stolen away from us.

As long as death touches other families in other places, as long as our mortal enemy shrouds himself in cold statistics or wears unknown names, then we can dispatch with him with little emotion. When he reaches into our own intimate circle of friends and loved ones, when he dares to trespass into property where he never had a right to come, we need help greater than ourselves. Tonight, we reach for something greater than our sorrow to strengthen us.

1 Corinthians 15:50-58 “Now this I say, brethren, that flesh and blood cannot inherit the kingdom of God; neither doth corruption inherit incorruption. 51 Behold, I shew you a mystery; We shall not all sleep, but we shall all be changed, 52 In a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trump: for the trumpet shall sound, and the dead shall be raised incorruptible, and we shall be changed. 53 For this corruptible must put on incorruption, and this mortal must put on immortality. 54 So when this corruptible shall have put on incorruption, and this mortal shall have put on immortality, then shall be brought to pass the saying that is written, Death is swallowed up in victory. 55 O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory? 56 The sting of death is sin; and the strength of sin is the law. 57 But thanks be to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. 58 Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye stedfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord.”

We take profound comfort in the fact that the bodies that can be diseased by cancer, reduced to a frail form lying in a casket, and emptied out of life will not be the final word pronounced upon us!

It may be an unsearchable mystery to us now, but
…by some reordering of the laws of physics,
…by some restructuring of the principles of biochemistry,
…by some reversal of the universal dying process,

We who know Jesus Christ, we who have read the answer to the question, “Men and brethren, what shall we do,” and obeyed the instructions given in that answer, “Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost,” are going to be changed.

We will be changed into a form more alive than the one we occupy tonight. This dying, diseased, fading, pain-filled body that we possess will undergo a profound metamorphosis. The death angel has only sputtered a few times in human history. He never got to Enoch or Elijah. He lost track of Moses. He couldn’t hang onto Lazarus the first time around. And Resurrection Morning proved to be a major embarrassment to his authority.

Resurrection Morning, in fact, was the power that flowed backwards to those who escaped death in the Old Testament, and flows forward to us today. If Christ rose from the dead nearly two millenniums ago, then Pamela H. will rise to meet her Lord in the skies, as will you and I who trust in Jesus!

But tonight, while we receive comfort from this passage that directly deals with death, I want us to especially notice the last verse which says that our labor is not in vain in the Lord.

To whom is the Apostle speaking? Whose labor is not in vain? Ours… those of us who labor in the vineyards of the King. Or, more specifically, the lady in pink who lies in state before you tonight. I believe it means that her song will never die.

Where does a song begin? What regal forces interact with each other, bringing to birth the anthem, the melody, the march and the hymn? Job wrote about creation’s morning:

4 "Where were you when I laid the earth's foundation? Tell me, if you understand. 5 Who marked off its dimensions? Surely you know! Who stretched a measuring line across it? 6 On what were its footings set, or who laid its cornerstone- 7 while the morning stars sang together and all the angels shouted for joy? Job 38:4-7 NIV

The song begins in eternity with the unleashing of God’s creative powers. It survived the rebellion of Lucifer, the fall of man, the besmirching of its lovely face in pagan rituals, and the perverting of its divine purpose in human history. The song lives on. It throws off the insults of a thousand infidels, resists the dances of sensual prodigals, and each time struggles free to expression in praise and worship to God. Pam H. was a window of song, through whom God’s eternal melodies ministered peace, joy and love.

Her song cannot be silenced. It lives on in the noble aspirations of those who learned from her. The song lives on. It lives on in the countless lives inspired and deepened by her music. It lives on because the song’s true Creator never dies.

If you want to hear her music, if you want to hear her sing and play, don’t despair as though the time is past. Close your eyes and push the play button. You will hear her rich, harmonious voice singing again, and you will find comfort in the golden tones of the Hammond organ as only she knew how to play it.

But you will also feel her spirit and the purity of her life. For the music of Pam H. transcended the mechanical notes and synthethsized sounds of the instruments she played. She also communicated the truths of God’s Word through her life and testimony. You will hear her pleading voice as she urges you to seek the face of God. You will also hear her kind words of advice as she gently warns you of wrong decisions. You will hear her praying voice as she intercedes to God on your behalf. 2 Peter 3:1-2 says, “This second epistle, beloved, I now write unto you; in both which I stir up your pure minds by way of remembrance: 2 That ye may be mindful of the words which were spoken before by the holy prophets, and of the commandment of us the apostles of the Lord and Saviour.”

If you have permitted your life to stray far from the principles you know are right, God has brought you to remembrance of these things tonight. If temptations and the cares of life have broken down your relationship with your savior, God has brought you face to face with truth tonight. If you have sought for a way, a time and a place to begin your journey back into the favor of God, you have the opportunity before you tonight.

Have you ever heard a tune on the radio that put a hook into your mind, and you could not get it out? My prayer, and I believe the prayer of this family, is that the song that flowed through this vessel would not be erased from your mind. Although her lips are silenced and her hands cannot coax beautiful music from the keyboards again, the song will never die. In this way, her labor will not be in vain.

To the family: the grief you bear tonight may seem unbearable. You may want to cling to this earthen vessel because it is the only thing you know about Pam, and the other side seems so distant, different and even cold. But I would like to remind you of something from the field of music.

Whenever composers or arrangers are challenged with transitioning from one piece of music to another, sometimes in order to change the tempo, or the pitch, or to go from one style into another totally different style, they often use a device known as a bridge. Even as a bridge over a river or a deep ravine is anchored to both sides and makes it possible to go from one side to another without interruption, a musical bridge minimizes the abrupt nature of the change and turns it into something pleasing to the ears of the listeners. Sometimes the bridge can be as beautiful as the music it unites. I know your hearts ache because you loved her so dearly, and because you know she loved you. But she has only just crossed over a bridge. Tonight, she continues her eternal song in heaven’s lofty heights.

John 14:1-3 “Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me. 2 In my Father's house are many mansions: if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. 3 And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you unto myself; that where I am, there ye may be also.”

 

Funeral Message for Vera K.

December 20, 2006

(Vera K. 94, was saved as a young woman.  She served as a pastor's wife, musician, and organizational official for most of her life.) 

First Apostolic Church

On behalf of Brother Fred K. and my wife, Sandy K. J., I want to say again how much we appreciate and are honored by your attendance today. The outpouring of love that you have shown to the family is humbling. At the same time, all of this is very fitting for the grand lady who lies before us today.

Before I begin, please pardon a personal reference. I want to make it clear that I was Sister K.’s favorite son-in-law. Unfortunately, I was also her least favorite. And, I am sure that, many times, I was both. (And, brethren, that will preach!)

Vera K., who, because of her talent and her leadership was often the object of praise and honor, never sought out the arena of fame. She disdained the idea of stardom. Circumstances thrust her into the spotlight, however, and she responded with the very qualities that were born and bred into her from the beginning---her work ethic and passion for excellence. She claimed that she wasn’t a soloist and she didn’t like to personally direct the choir, but she provided the driving force behind all the music that flowed from the platform of the church.

Sister K. was primarily a teacher. As with all great teachers, her focus was not on herself but on others. Everything she did, whether it was encouragement, comfort, instruction or sharp criticism, was to make others better. No one ever doubted that the welfare of others was her ultimate goal.

Sister Vera K. had a special relationship with the Lord. Seventy years ago today, December 20, 1936, she was filled with the gift of the Holy Ghost! (Read account from “Strength Through Struggle”.

She loved the things of the Spirit, but her first love was centered on the name of Jesus. She believed strongly in baptism in the name of Jesus because she understood the importance of, and the power in, the name of Jesus. She was also fervent in prayer. She started the ladies prayer meeting many years ago and continued leading it as long as she was able.

For the last twenty-three years of her life, I served as her pastor…and she was one of the best saints any pastor could have. Few people know this, but she was one of the best givers in the church. She gave multiplied thousands of dollars that she earned through giving music lessons to foreign missions and the building fund. She especially liked to do designated offerings. She envisioned a project and she funded it---like the lawn irrigation system, the flagpole or various pieces of furniture.

Hebrews 6:10 was Sister K.’s favorite scripture. “For God is not unrighteous to forget your work and labour of love, which ye have shewed toward his name, in that ye have ministered to the saints, and do minister.” There is no better scripture to articulate her legacy of life than this. Vera K. was all about work, labor of love and ministry. If she could rise up and speak today, I believe her words would reinforce the same principles contained in this verse.

To her students, she would say: Practice your lesson! You can do it.
To her fellow saints, she would say: Pray! Be faithful.
To her daughter, Sandy, she would say: Do the right thing. Get it done.
To me, she would say, (and she did): Preach the word!
To her grandchildren, she would say: Love God. Serve him with all your heart!
I don’t presume to know what she might say to her husband!

But these are only speculations. Her lips have now fallen silent to all of us. Now is the time for her to hear what God is speaking to her.

“Well done, thou good and faithful servant: thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord.” Matthew 25:21.

51 Behold, I shew you a mystery; We shall not all sleep, but we shall all be changed, 52 In a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trump: for the trumpet shall sound, and the dead shall be raised incorruptible, and we shall be changed 53 For this corruptible must put on incorruption, and this mortal must put on immortality. 54 So when this corruptible shall have put on incorruption, and this mortal shall have put on immortality, then shall be brought to pass the saying that is written, Death is swallowed up in victory. 55 O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory? 56 The sting of death is sin; and the strength of sin is the law. 57 But thanks be to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.

Yes, these are the precious promises given to the people of God. But, have you ever noticed the content of the final verse in this passage? I can almost see Sister K., always the teacher, pausing long enough in her ascent to heaven to remind us of what it takes to please God:

58 Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye stedfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord. 1 Corinthians 15:51-58

To close this memorial service today, the Condon family, whom Sister K. helped to train in music over the years, is going to sing “Goodbye World, Goodbye”

Song

Final prayer.

Friday
Jun222007

Funeral Services for Church Members

Funeral Message for Billy S.

September 7, 2004

First Apostolic Church

(Billy S., 25, had Muscular Dystrophy. He lived five to seven years longer than most MD victims. He spent most of his life in a wheel chair. Baptized as a child, Billy received the Holy Ghost several years before he died.)

2 Cor 5:1-10

5:1 For we know that when this tent we live in now is taken down; when we die and leave these bodies, we will have wonderful new bodies in heaven, homes that will be ours forevermore, made for us by God himself and not by human hands. 2 How weary we grow of our present bodies. That is why we look forward eagerly to the day when we shall have heavenly bodies that we shall put on like new clothes. 3 For we shall not be merely spirits without bodies. 4 These earthly bodies make us groan and sigh, but we wouldn't like to think of dying and having no bodies at all. We want to slip into our new bodies so that these dying bodies will, as it were, be swallowed up by everlasting life. 5 This is what God has prepared for us, and as a guarantee he has given us his Holy Spirit.

6 Now we look forward with confidence to our heavenly bodies, realizing that every moment we spend in these earthly bodies is time spent away from our eternal home in heaven with Jesus. 7 We know these things are true by believing, not by seeing. 8 And we are not afraid but are quite content to die, for then we will be at home with the Lord. 9 So our aim is to please him always in everything we do, whether we are here in this body or away from this body and with him in heaven. 10 For we must all stand before Christ to be judged and have our lives laid bare-before him. Each of us will receive whatever he deserves for the good or bad things he has done in his earthly body. TLB

Five years ago while I was up on a scaffold working on the Family Life Center, I got a call to come to the hospital quickly. They had taken Billy S. there because he was fighting for his life. I remember a team of nurses and doctors pushing Billy down the hall on a gurney, manually venting his lungs. He was turning blue around his lips and I could see panic in his eyes. At that time, he was twenty years old, a relatively long survivor of Duchene’s, more commonly known as muscular dystrophy. I wrapped my arms around Doug and Kathy as they broke down in tears. Was this the end? No, God had five more years to give Billy in this life.

There were several close calls in the intervening years, but each time Billy fought back and kept going. His amazing resiliency of spirit, his insatiable desire for his hobbies and interests, and his determination to overcome the condition that dogged him every moment of his life proved to be not only enough inspiration for himself, but for those around him as well. Billy never complained about his lot in life. He never permitted his limitations to dictate how his attitude would show itself.

Billy lived on two levels. He was very much aware of the machines, tubes, needles and medicines that he depended on for his life. But he never obsessed on them. They were just necessary evils to him. After all those things were taken care of, he focused his attention on another level, a wealth of collections, emblems, games, hobbies, activities and people. He lived vicariously through the exploits and adventures of people in the big world, and enjoyed those experiences as much as those who actually did them. From his special room that Doug remodeled from the front porch of their modest home on Jackman Road, Bill had a virtual window on the world, and he sat at the controls.

Billy had a surprising sense of humor. One of my favorite stories about him took place back in grade school at ACA. The teacher assigned the students to name their favorite food and give the recipe for how it was made. While she read all the papers about cakes, pies and mashed potatoes and gravy and the steps to prepare them, she came across Billy’s paper. It said, “Jello…read the directions on the side of the box.” Someone said that they talked to Billy today. He said it was the Braves in five. Billy would have enjoyed that kind of humor.

Billy also liked girls, although he only talked about this with his mother. When his sisters were searching through his CDs for some background music to play at the funeral parlor, they came across an album by a young, female artist. Knowing that he didn’t like her particular style, they asked why he had this CD in his collection. Someone knew. “Oh, he didn’t play it. He just bought it because he liked the picture of the pretty girl on the cover.”

We could continue to talk about Billy. He had such wide and varied interests. I think his dad captured the essence of Billy’s life and personality in his letter. But, we cannot satisfy our quest here this afternoon in this service unless we step back and reflect on the purposes, the whys and wherefores of Billy S. This has been a source of untold agony for Kathy and Doug over the years. How could this be? How could this seeming contradiction of God’s love and perfection even exist? It this divine punishment or disfavor? Is it an attack of Satan himself? Do we attribute it to a woeful lack of faith on our part? Is it just meant to be? Sometimes the questions were obscured behind the day-to-day realities of caring for Billy. At other times they bore down with hurricane strength.

All of us see through a glass darkly, but the Apostle Paul’s experience gently moves us toward the answer: He writes in 2 Corinthians 12:7-10, “And lest I should be exalted above measure through the abundance of the revelations, there was given to me a thorn in the flesh, the messenger of Satan to buffet me, lest I should be exalted above measure. For this thing I besought the Lord thrice, that it might depart from me. And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.”

This thought began to form in my mind as I stood beside Billy’s hospital bed in January when we knew that the end was near. I decided to preach his funeral sermon to him then, although I didn’t tell him what I was doing. I told him that he must not think that his life was wasted or in vain. He had a powerful, positive effect on everyone who knew him because he brought out the best in them. God used him to develop grace, love and compassion in his family and friends. The greatest tragedy of this entire episode would be for us to fail to recognize God’s hand in creating divine attributes in creatures clay. As surely as Moses picked up a rod and caused the sea to roll back, as surely as David picked up a sling and felled the giant, so also God picked up Billy S. and brought forth marvelous graces and heroic deeds from ordinary human beings like us.

Billy taught us patience through the laborious task of caring for him.  Billy taught us peace through his calm reaction to daily challenges.  Billy taught us thankfulness because he showed such gratitude for his care.  Billy taught us happiness through his refusal to complain.  Billy taught us appreciation for so much because he had such appreciation for his limited opportunities.  We cannot measure Billy’s life by what he did, but by what he caused others to do.

You see, in a larger context, Billy’s life was a sermon. He illustrated the very heart of God at the dawn of creation when our human parents fell into sin. Instead of destroying their souls in an act of divine retribution, he devised a means to redeem lost mankind back to a state where they could have a relationship with him. That means took form on a cruel instrument of execution. Calvary was not born out of the murderous hearts of Christ’s tormentors, but out of the flaming sword that prohibited the entrance into Eden by sinners. We are not saved by a stunning display of God’s power, but by his incredible willingness to show us his weakness.

Philippians 2:5-8

5 Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:  6 Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God:  7 But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men:  8 And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross. 

Never think that you would have designed a better life for William T. S.. I dare say that not one person in the family of Doug and Kathy S. will have more impact upon their lives than did Billy, stricken with muscular dystrophy, but blessed with and ebullient spirit and a triumphant life. Billy was so much bigger than a wheelchair. He roamed a far greater world than an 8x10 remodeled room. He wrestled much more powerful opponents than Bobby Quance or B Boy---and body slammed them! He was a star player on a team far superior to the Braves, and even his beloved Michigan Wolverines weren’t good enough for him. His winning streak lasted for twenty-five years. Billy taught us how to win.

Billy’s teaching career ended last Friday at about 4:00 pm. He taught his last lesson, cleared his desk and began his long awaited summer vacation. This is where the text I read at the beginning comes alive. No more virtual reality; no more plastic models; no more figures on a screen moving around and enjoying unlimited freedom. Today, Billy has the glorified body that surpasses all of ours. The physiological make-up of his new body is still under wraps, but we have wonderful assurances of its nature. Philippians 3:20-21 says, “But our homeland is in heaven, where our Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ, is; and we are looking forward to his return from there. 21 When he comes back, he will take these dying bodies of ours and change them into glorious bodies like his own, using the same mighty power that he will use to conquer all else everywhere.” TLB. Can Billy walk today? Only if he wants to. More likely, he is running. Hey, he may even be flying.

Why can we speak with such confidence about the unknowable future? Because the scriptures illuminate the pathway that leads to an eternity with God. Billy repented of his sins; as a little boy, he was baptized in the sin-remitting name of Jesus Christ; and a few short years ago, he received the gift of the Holy Ghost right over there in this sanctuary. The exciting fact about the indwelling Spirit of God is that it is the earnest of our inheritance; it is God’s security payment to guarantee that he will resurrect us and take us home to live with him forever.

The last word we heard from Billy was, “Braves”, which was the inscription on the front of his jersey that he wears today. What an appropriate word, a word that ironically applies best not to a baseball team, but to Billy S. himself. I would like to speak a few more words on Billy’s behalf that I think he would have wanted:

Thanks, Gary. No one knows how much your friendship meant to Bill.  Thanks, to the team of doctors and nurses who constantly worked to make life more comfortable and prolonged the ability for Billy to stay with us.  Thanks Rachael, Marie and Jennifer. No one ever had sisters that loved him more.  Thanks, Dad. You were Billy’s best Bud. You grew stronger as he grew weaker.  And, thanks Mom. You dedicated your life to love and care for Billy. When he suffered, you suffered. When he laughed, so did you. You have no reason for regrets today.

And to all of you, Billy loved you.

Friday afternoon, I stood at Billy’s bedside and reminded him not to be afraid. I told him he was about to cross a river, a river bigger than the Maumee or the Ohio. His brow seemed furrowed so I gently rubbed my thumb across his eyebrows and told him not to frown. A hint of that same infectious smile appeared, and you could almost envy the peace that enveloped his countenance. I can tell you that there was no fearful spirit disrupting the spiritual tranquility that filled the room. Billy finally let go of his hold on this life because he now had a hold on a much better life. As Paul said, “We are not afraid but are quite content to die, for then we will be at home with the Lord.” This hope takes us through this life and bridges that river into the next.

I have hope, when trouble comes my way

I have hope, since Jesus has come to stay

I have hope, oh yes, when things are not well with me

I have hope, it's a beautiful hope that sets me free

Verse:

Now, when in distress, He said, "Come unto me."

If you're oppressed, I know, He'll give you liberty

Times may find, times may find you, at the end of your line

Just keep the faith, don't you ever doubt, the Lord'll be on time

Chorus:

Verse:

The darkest night is just before the dawn

But, the hardest fight, that I know, is just to keep holding on

When you get weary, when you get weary, and each hill seems hard for you to climb

Just keep looking up, don't ever doubt, the Lord'll be on time

1 Cor 15:48-57

48 As is the earthy, such are they also that are earthy: and as is the heavenly, such are they also that are heavenly.  49 And as we have borne the image of the earthy, we shall also bear the image of the heavenly.  50 Now this I say, brethren, that flesh and blood cannot inherit the kingdom of God; neither doth corruption inherit incorruption.  51 Behold, I shew you a mystery; We shall not all sleep, but we shall all be changed, 52 In a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trump: for the trumpet shall sound, and the dead shall be raised incorruptible, and we shall be changed.  53 For this corruptible must put on incorruption, and this mortal must put on immortality.  54 So when this corruptible shall have put on incorruption, and this mortal shall have put on immortality, then shall be brought to pass the saying that is written, Death is swallowed up in victory.  55 O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory?  56 The sting of death is sin; and the strength of sin is the law.  57 But thanks be to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.

 

Memorial Service for Chuck C.

March 2, 2002

(Chuck C., 70, retired Air Force officer, died of lung cancer. He was baptized many years prior, but he received the Holy Ghost on his death bed.)

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Chuck C.

Chuck C. was a man of few words, but he always had a smile and a pleasant word for anyone he met. He had a favorite chair he sat in out in the church vestibule and he always greeted people as they went by. In the last few months, he more often came into the services and sat with his wife. He also would come up for prayer, and whenever I visited him, he always wanted me to pray for him. I know he appreciated every effort anyone made to see him or help him in any way.

He was kind. He was generous. He liked to work with his hands.   He was patriotic. He never talked about people.  He never wanted to be a burden on anyone.  He was a good husband and a good father. He loved his family.

Chuck never talked very much about the Lord with me, but he had great respect for the things of God. He never accosted me with a complaint or even tried to offer me a suggestion about anything around the church. If he had any opinions, he kept them to himself. I would have liked for him to get involved more in worship and the Word of God, but I am convinced that he had some reasons for not doing so that he didn’t want to discuss. It is possible that some things happened to him while he was in military action or service that he never felt comfortable talking about. I do know that towards the end, Chuck began to pray and worship at home, and just before he left this world, he seemed to be lost in worship. It is likely that he received the Holy Ghost just before he died. He had been baptized in Jesus’ name many years ago.

Although Chuck had been battling cancer for nearly five years, he only truly understood that it was a terminal condition less than two weeks before he died. He no doubt had an idea that he was losing the battle, but he didn’t get a confirmation from the doctors until the first of February. Even at that, he didn’t allow it to change his attitude. He seemed to face death with the same matter-of-fact approach with which he faced living. I think that is amazing in itself. For death to be sudden and unanticipated is one thing; to know that it is coming in the next few days or weeks is another.

There are three main concerns that a person faces at the point where they cross over into the next life.

First, do I have any regrets for things I did that I shouldn’t have, or that I didn’t that I should have? That involves one’s own personal life.

Second, did I take care of all my obligations and responsibilities given to me in life? That involves your family and friends.

And last, am I ready to meet God? That involves the condition of one’s own soul. While we are here to share a memorial service for Chuck C., he is not the one who stands to gain from this service. We are, but only if we honestly and sincerely think about these issues.

First, any regrets? In a parable Jesus told, a man who had been blessed with the abundance of life did not entertain any thoughts of God, but only of himself. He decided to pull his barns down and build bigger ones to store his crops for himself and provide for his own future. God spoke to him that very night and said, “Thou fool, this night thy soul is required of thee.” Contrast this with the words of the Apostle Paul. “I have fought a good fight. I have finished my course. Henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness.” The time to make sure there will be no regrets is while you have the strength and the time to do something about it.

Second, what about your obligations and responsibilities? One time, Jesus was asked about the commandments. He said that the first great commandment was the love the Lord with all your heart, and that the second was like it, which was to love your neighbor as yourself. The world we live in is increasingly more selfish and self-centered than ever before. When we reach the end of our earthly existence, we need to be surrounded by people who love us---and by people we love. Doing the right things, accepting our responsibilities and taking care of the duties God has assigned to us in life---just like Chuck did---is supremely important.

Last, am I ready to meet God? Anyone who successfully finishes this course of life must answer this question. The bible teaches us about the soul of man that shall live forever. God judges the eternal destiny of the soul, but each of us decides what that judgment will be. The power lies within our hands. The Apostle Peter preached a powerful and convicting message on the Jewish feast Day of Pentecost, in the second chapter of Acts. The people who heard him were so moved that they asked, “Men and brethren, what shall we do?” Let me move it from the plural to the singular. “What shall I do?” His answer was clear. “Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of your sins and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.” To be prepared to meet God is to meet the Bible standards for full salvation. It is to embrace the eternal nature of the soul. It is to understand that life extends beyond happiness and contentment on this earth, but that it is waiting chamber for the greater life on the other side.

Today, we remember Chuck C., and we bid him farewell. He has now gone the way all of us will go at our appointed time. Make sure you have no regrets. Make sure you take care of the people in your life. And, make sure that your ultimate encounter with God will be in peace.

Let’s pray.

 

Funeral Message for Dorsey C., Sr.

Wednesday, March 02, 2005

(Dorsey C., 55, died of an apparent brain aneurism. He was a faithful servant of God for many years.)

I consider it a great honor to conduct this service today for Dorsey C. He was the kind of man that every pastor deeply appreciates. When I heard of his unexpected passing, the twinge of pain I felt in my heart was for his wife and family, for our church and for me…it was not because I was uncertain of his eternal reward. Although he was a man of few words, his character and life spoke a far better sermon than the greatest preacher among us could preach.

To lose Dorsey so unexpectedly and at such an untimely point in his life presents the greatest challenge to us, and especially to his family. All of us could wish for answers to this devastating blow…and I believe that the answers will come in time…but let us not be so overtaken with grief and sorrow that we fail to see what God may be doing in the larger picture of life. - Kathleen Norris , in Hands Full of Living says, "None of us knows what the next change is going to be, what unexpected opportunity is just around the corner, waiting a few months or a few years to change all the tenor of our lives."

There is peace in the midst of the storm. And the surest source of peace is keeping our focus securely in the hands of the Giver and Sustainer and Determiner of our lives.

33 O the depth of the riches both of the wisdom and knowledge of God! how unsearchable are his judgments, and his ways past finding out!  34 For who hath known the mind of the Lord? or who hath been his counseller?  35 Or who hath first given to him, and it shall be recompensed unto him again?  36 For of him, and through him, and to him, are all things: to whom be glory for ever. Amen. Rom 11:33-12:1

Dorsey C. was not a pretentious man. He was plain-spoken, hard-working, truth-telling, honest-living and God-fearing. Lying before us here this morning, dressed in workclothes and showing a serene smile on his face is a huge message for us all. The way he chose to live was not just hereditary. It was not because he was afraid to be the biggest, baddest, meanest and sickest character in the county. No. There is a major reason why he lived the way he did…because he saw this day coming. He knew there was an eternity attached to the decisions and actions of this life. He may not have said it all this way, but let me put it into words for you.

He was a faithful man.

“Most men will proclaim every one his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find?”  Proverbs 20:6.

“Moreover it is required in stewards, that a man be found faithful.” 1 Cor 4:2

Faithful means that he was consistent, unwavering. Faithful means that he served God in good times and bad. He came to church whether it rained or snowed. He paid his tithes regardless of how much money he had left over at the end of the week. Faithful means that you could count on him standing at his post of duty as an usher if he was sick or well. Faithful means that he permitted nothing to hinder him from doing God’s will.

Is it important to be faithful? Absolutely! “Fear none of those things which thou shalt suffer: behold, the devil shall cast some of you into prison, that ye may be tried; and ye shall have tribulation ten days: be thou faithful unto death, and I will give thee a crown of life.” Rev 2:10.

He was a responsible man.

We live in an age where many people refuse to take responsibility for their actions or for their families. Much of the heartache and heartbreak that we deal with stems from the carelessness and irresponsibility that clutters the social landscape around us. Dorsey C. shouldered his burdens and responsibilities with a seriousness and determination that made us admire him greatly. A few years ago when he lost his job, he could have thrown up his hands and given up. Not this man. He did whatever he could do until he finally worked his way back into a job situation that he could support his family and pay his bills. Never one time did he come to me with bitter complaints or anger. He just took care of his responsibilities.

In the story of the Good Samaritan, we read: “And [he] went to him, and bound up his wounds, pouring in oil and wine, and set him on his own beast, and brought him to an inn, and took care of him.” Luke 10:34. I wonder if God peeked ahead in time and patterned his story after Dorsey?

Is there an eternal reward attached to our responsible behavior in this life? Yes.

6 [God] will render to every man according to his deeds: 7 To them who by patient continuance in well doing seek for glory and honour and immortality, eternal life:  Rom 2:6-7

Finally, Dorsey loved God and loved to come to church. Sue told me several times since last Friday that God and church was his life. From the day he repented of his sins, was baptized in the name above every name…the name of Jesus…and received the gift of the Holy Ghost, Dorsey knew what he wanted to do and what he had to do. I am convinced that he chose this kind of life because he knew what lay beyond February 26, 2005.

5:1 For we know that when this tent we live in now is taken down-when we die and leave these bodies-we will have wonderful new bodies in heaven, homes that will be ours forevermore, made for us by God himself and not by human hands. 2 How weary we grow of our present bodies. That is why we look forward eagerly to the day when we shall have heavenly bodies that we shall put on like new clothes. 3 For we shall not be merely spirits without bodies. 4 These earthly bodies make us groan and sigh, but we wouldn't like to think of dying and having no bodies at all. We want to slip into our new bodies so that these dying bodies will, as it were, be swallowed up by everlasting life. 5 This is what God has prepared for us, and as a guarantee he has given us his Holy Spirit.

6 Now we look forward with confidence to our heavenly bodies, realizing that every moment we spend in these earthly bodies is time spent away from our eternal home in heaven with Jesus. 7 We know these things are true by believing, not by seeing. 8 And we are not afraid but are quite content to die, for then we will be at home with the Lord. 9 So our aim is to please him always in everything we do, whether we are here in this body or away from this body and with him in heaven. 10 For we must all stand before Christ to be judged and have our lives laid bare-before him. Each of us will receive whatever he deserves for the good or bad things he has done in his earthly body.  2 Cor 5:1-10  TLB

I know I am speaking today to a varied audience. There are those today who have embraced the same faith that Dorsey C. lived by. But there are others who find themselves still searching, still wondering, still looking for the way you want to live your lives. Let this man’s life speak to you today. He was a tower of strength…a tried and true example of Christianity…a man of sterling character and undaunted faith. He got that way because he had his hand in the hand of the man who walked the waters!

Resurrection morning is coming. Jesus said he was the resurrection and the life. That was Dorsey’s life-sustaining hope. You need to make it yours as well.

Let us pray.

 

Funeral Message for Fernando A.

August 26, 2004

(Fernando A., early sixties, died of stomach cancer. He was saved later in life and was a deacon in the church.)

Like a Tree

1 Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.  2 But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night.  3 And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper.  4 The ungodly are not so: but are like the chaff which the wind driveth away.  5 Therefore the ungodly shall not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous.  6 For the LORD knoweth the way of the righteous: but the way of the ungodly shall perish. Psalm 1 (KJV)

1 Blessed was Fernando A. who walked not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor stood in the way of sinners, nor sat in the seat of the scornful.  2 But his delight was in the law of the LORD; and in his law did he meditate day and night.  3 And he was like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that brought forth his fruit in his season; his leaf did not wither; and whatever he did prospered.  4 He was not like the chaff which the wind drives away.  5 Therefore, Fernando A. shall remain standing when the judgment is over, and he will be included in the congregation of the righteous.  6 For the LORD knew the way of Fernando A., a righteous man: and the way he took is the road to eternity. Psalm 1 (JMJV)

Fernando A. was a unique man. He came north with a family of migrant workers, like tens of thousands of others, and learned to work hard as a small boy. From those humble beginnings, he established himself in the community of Delta, became a family man, a home-owner and, later on, a businessman in lawn service. He overcame many obstacles that faced him---a new language, a new culture, adverse feelings toward his ethnicity, limited opportunities for education---and quietly succeeded in his quest. If you asked him how he made it, he would have said, “Jesus, and Virginia.”

I didn’t get acquainted with Fernando (we called him Brother A.) until about eleven years ago when he started attending First Apostolic Church in Toledo. His smile and his humble personality immediately won all our hearts. He served as an usher, a member of the Advisory Board, and was always busy doing something around the church. He and Virginia came every month to polish the brass in the sanctuary. He got involved in many projects around the church, especially when we built our Family Life Center several years ago. The display you see here of his work clothes and other articles were not just for show. That was his life. He knew how to work hard, and he did.

I looked up the word “A.” in a Spanish dictionary in preparation for this service. I had a feeling that it might mean something special. My premonition was right. The word A. means a shelter or a covering, like an overcoat. Fernando A. assumed the responsibilities of taking care of his family and many others as well, of providing a shelter to protect them from the harshness and troubles of life. When he said, “I’ll take care of it,” he meant exactly what he said. His word was like a written guarantee.

Fernando was an honest, straight-forward man. All of you who knew him can attest to this character trait. When he earnestly began to find out about the matters of the soul, he came to the conclusion that obedience to the Bible was the most important thing he could do. I know that he would want me to tell you how he found salvation and how he came to love Jesus. When he saw that the scriptures taught about repentance from sin, he did it. When he saw that the Bible taught baptism in the name of Jesus Christ for remission of sins, he did that. When he saw that the baptism of the Holy Spirit was the scriptural example for him to follow, he received that gift too. Because of his humble nature, he may not tell you that he accepted these Bible truths in a beautiful and pure way. He was a seeker of truth---not status, not acclaim, not to impress others---and so he very simply and honestly obeyed the clear instructions of the Holy Writ.

We at the First Apostolic Church knew Brother A. as a worshipper. Perhaps those unfamiliar with Pentecostal worship may not understand this, but this man’s worship was wholehearted and inspiring to others. He would leap for joy, clap his hands, and praise the Lord, regardless of how he felt or what others thought. He was a delight to see. When service was over, he would make a point to talk to visitors and give them spiritual encouragement and instructions.

Turning to the text I read at the beginning of this message, I could not help but see Brother A. in every aspect of this Psalm.

Psalms 1

1 Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.

This man considered carefully where he walked, where he stood and where he sat. He chose not to do anything or form any relationship that would jeopardize his relationship with God.

2 But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night.

Few Christians enjoy their salvation like Brother A.. Joy and delight was written all over his face, whether he was in church or on the street. He made sure that his mind was focused on Jesus all the time. The little sign placed beside him in the casket was actually in his shop. He kept a Christian radio station on all the time. Why? Because his delight was in the law of the Lord. That was his source of strength.

3 And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper.

Fernando knew about trees. He made his living working with plants, and grass and trees. He knew how they grew, what was good for them, what was bad for them and how to make them healthy.

The description given by the Psalmist of this kind of man, the man who shuns ungodliness, rebellion and hatred, the man who makes the substance of his day the word of God, the man that Fernando A. was, has found the secret. Where would you plant a tree to have the best chance of growing strong and healthy? You would find a place near the rivers of water where an abundant supply of strength and nourishment was available.

That’s the story of the man we come to honor today. He stayed close to his source. The result was that he produced good fruit. The things he did were right and did not wither away. He didn’t waste his life on things that didn’t count. He wasn’t out just for himself. Whatever he put his hand to prospered.

4 The ungodly are not so: but are like the chaff which the wind driveth away.  5 Therefore the ungodly shall not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous.  6 For the LORD knoweth the way of the righteous: but the way of the ungodly shall perish.

What does the judgment hold for Fernando A.? God is the judge of us all, but he has given us a clear picture of the future for those who obey and serve him.

“Now we know that if the dwelling earthly tent we live in is destroyed, we have a building from God, an eternal house in heaven, not built by human hands. 2 Meanwhile we groan, longing to be clothed with our heavenly, 3 because when we are clothed, we will not be found naked. 4 For while we are in this tent, we groan and are burdened, because we do not wish to be unclothed but to be clothed with our heavenly dwelling, so that what is mortal may be swallowed up by life. 5 Now it is God who has made us for this very purpose and has given us the Spirit as a deposit, guaranteeing what is to come.” 2 Corinthians 5:1-10

“ Therefore we are always confident and know that as long as we are at home in the body we are away from the Lord. 7 We live by faith, not by sight. 8 We are confident, I say, and would prefer to be away from the body and at home with the Lord. 9 So we make it our goal to please him, whether we are at home in the body or away from it. 10 For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, that each one may receive what is due him for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad. “ NIV

“I declare to you, brothers, that flesh and blood cannot inherit the kingdom of God, nor does the perishable inherit the imperishable. 51 Listen, I tell you a mystery: We will not all sleep, but we will all be changed- 52 in a flash, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet. For the trumpet will sound, the dead will be raised imperishable, and we will be changed. 53 For the perishable must clothe itself with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality. 54 When the perishable has been clothed with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality, then the saying that is written will come true: "Death has been swallowed up in victory." 55 "Where, O death, is your victory? Where, O death, is your sting?" 56 The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law. 57 But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. 58 Therefore, my dear brothers, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.” 1 Corinthians 15:50-58 NIV

Stand firm. Stand strong. Like a tree, planted by the rivers of water. Whenever you drive by a tall, strong tree, think of this Psalm…and think of Fernando A.. He was like a tree.

This body you see lie in state before you today only housed the soul of the man. The soul now rests in the arms of God.

One of these days, a wonderful family reunion will take place over on the other side. Everyone who wants a hope of taking part in that reunion can follow the honest, straight-forward path that this husband, father, grandfather, brother and friend walked himself.

What is it going to be like over there where he is today?

22:1 And he shewed me a pure river of water of life, clear as crystal, proceeding out of the throne of God and of the Lamb. 2 In the midst of the street of it, and on either side of the river, was there the tree of life, which bare twelve manner of fruits, and yielded her fruit every month: and the leaves of the tree were for the healing of the nations. 3 And there shall be no more curse: but the throne of God and of the Lamb shall be in it; and his servants shall serve him: 4 And they shall see his face; and his name shall be in their foreheads. 5 And there shall be no night there; and they need no candle, neither light of the sun; for the Lord God giveth them light: and they shall reign for ever and ever. Revelation 22:1-5 KJV

Thursday
Jun212007

Funeral Services for Non-Members

Funeral Services for Aaron L.

(Aaron L., 18 years old, was killed in an automobile crash. An outstanding athlete, he had graduated from high school a few days before his death, and would have entered college in the fall. The funeral was held in the school assembly hall and was packed out. After the brief ceremony at the graveside, over 500 people stood mourning for an hour, still in shock over the tragedy.)

Job 23 (The Living Bible) [The reply of Job:] "My complaint today is still a bitter one, and my punishment far more severe than my fault deserves. Oh, that I knew where to find God--that I could go to his throne and talk with him there. I would tell him all about my side of this argument, and listen to his reply, and understand what he wants. Would he merely overpower me with his greatness? No, he would listen with sympathy. Fair and honest men could reason with him and be acquitted by my Judge. "But I search in vain. I seek him here, I seek him there and cannot find him. I seek him in his workshop in the North but cannot find him there; nor can I find him in the South; there, too, he hides himself. But he knows every detail of what is happening to me; and when he has examined me, he will pronounce me completely innocent--as pure as solid gold! "I have stayed in God's paths, following his steps. I have not turned aside. I have not refused his commandments but have enjoyed them more than my daily food. Nevertheless, his mind concerning me remains unchanged, and who can turn him from his purposes? Whatever he wants to do, he does. So he will do to me all he has planned, and there is more ahead.”

First, I think it is vital for us to understand that Aaron L. was more than a sports hero. Stardom for most athletic standouts passes almost as quickly as the ink dries on the newspapers. Aaron L. was a refreshing person in a world where confusion and despair dog the lives of many of our young people. He was a brilliant star, flashing across the sky in a brief, dazzling display of talent and class. Some who live five times as long as Aaron never have one-fifth the impact that he had on the lives around him. Off the diamond and outside the arena, he affected the lives of countless people, many of whom were much younger then himself.

Erich Fromm said, "To die is poignantly bitter, but the idea of having to die without having lived is unbearable." There are some who may say that Aaron never had a chance to live. To those I say, Aaron lived long enough to be a genuine hero, long enough to give joy to everyone who knew him, long enough to be loved by all.

The ancient patriarch Job provides the context for the grief we struggle with today. How do we find answers for an unspeakable thing? The inevitable "why?" surfaces at the end of nearly every bout of sorrow. No answer satisfies. No reason is forthcoming. Job said, "Oh, that I knew where to find God--that I could go to his throne and talk with him there. I would tell him all about my side of this argument, and listen to his reply, and understand what he wants."

Have you ever seen the mental challenge often presented in a psychology or even a creative writing class? It is a little square grid of nine dots and the instructions are to draw four lines that contain all the dots. You can solve the problem only if you are willing to extend the lines beyond the gridwork. Our concept of life is all too often boxed into a square grid consisting of a series of predictable events. Is it not possible that God's answer lies somewhere off the page, outside the predictable framework we call life?

The answer to the tragedy we wrestle with today is not one, but many. Each of us takes what is given to us and we write our own answer, making it intensely personal and private. The facts of events are the same to us all, but each of us attach our own meaning to them. Anne Morrow Lindbergh wrote in Theodore, "Grief can't be shared. Everyone carries it alone, his own burden, his own way."

But I do not believe the answer will be found in focusing on the loss, but magnifying the gains that all who knew and loved Aaron received. I walked out into a wooded area of our church property last week inspecting some small trees and saplings that could be replanted. While most of them were beautiful and full, there were some that were misshapen and poorly developed. All of them, however, taken together, make up a beautiful forest. So we walk into life, expecting to find beauty everywhere we look. We inspect the experiences, the elements of life one by one, and sometimes we find a sorrow here or a tragedy there that deeply offends us. We may walk away confused, hurt, or even embittered. Yet, taken together, they make up life on a larger scale. This, for now, is all we have. Eternity remains an unrealized mystery. Today, in the presence of death, we gain a new perspective of life. Today, faced with an unanswerable tragedy, we somehow discover a transcendent answer. The forest will be beautiful again.

When we do not have answers, we may all have faith. Jesus said, "I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die." Death loses its sting and the grave its victory in the glorious light of Jesus Christ. The believers’ “need to know” is swallowed up in everlasting triumph. On the day of Pentecost, the Apostle Peter said, "Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of your sins and ye shall received the gift of the Holy Ghost." Christ's winning name and His victorious spirit overcomes the power of death.

A book has an introduction, body and conclusion. Sometimes, many characters are interwoven throughout its plots and subplots, and sometimes an intriguing novel centers upon one or two people. A book does not have to be long to be good. War and Peace fills well over a thousand pages, but other books, such as The Red Badge of Courage, although comparatively short, deliver a powerful impact. Aaron's life may have been brief, but perhaps from the perspective of time, not only the introduction, but also the body and conclusion will be discernible.

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Funeral Message for Danny M.

(Danny M. 69, retire, disability, died of complications after surgery.)

Danny M. was the kind of person who did not advertise his capabilities. He avoided the spotlight and hardly talked about himself. Underneath, however, he was constantly thinking about many different things in life, and more often than not, he was right on target. He knew much about cars, home repair, and even politics. Outwardly, he would much rather talk about the interests of other people, and he always liked to talk about fishing.

This morning, as I was out for my daily walk, I passed Danny’s favorite fishing spot on Olander Lake. On the northwest side of the lake, between the oak tree that stood close to the water and the point where the shoreline bends toward the east, Danny threw his line into the water too many times to count. He knew when it was the best time to fish, what bait to use and how to work the line. Opal still has trout and other fish in the freezer from Danny’s successful fishing trips. All of us, except maybe the fish, are going to miss his familiar figure sitting by the lake.

When his family was young, Danny worked hard to make ends meet. I’m sure he wanted to spend more time doing family things, but there was never any doubt that he loved Opal, Roger, Terry and Danny, Jr., and they loved him. After he retired, he had the time to be with the boys, and the grandchildren, and the great-granddaughter, Reese.

Danny came to church only occasionally through most of his life, but during the last few years as his health began to break down, I saw him in services more often. I believe he knew then that time was not on his side. One day in January, I visited him at Flower Hospital and he assured me that he wanted to come to church and pray at the altar. He never got to do that, but I believe he made an altar of his own in a hospital room.

When the time came to make the difficult decision about ending life support, the family’s love for Danny was very much in evidence. They were reluctant to let go, and it was not done easily. They made sure that there was no other alternative. This will be a source of comfort for every family member in the future, because you will all know that you placed him in God’s hands, and it was God’s decision to take him at this time. I was in the room with Roger when Danny slipped from this life to the next. It was peaceful and without struggle. God’s hands are the best place to be, and we know that the God who loves mercy and grace, and the one who is the judge of all the earth will do right.

Eccl 7:2

2. It is better to go to the house of mourning, than to go to the house of feasting: for that is the end of all men; and the living will lay it to his heart. 3. Sorrow is better than laughter: for by the sadness of the countenance the heart is made better. 4. The heart of the wise is in the house of mourning; but the heart of fools is in the house of mirth.

Eccl 7:8

8 Better is the end of a thing than the beginning thereof:

None of us likes attend funerals. They seem to represent the antithesis of everything we want or hope for in life. We distance ourselves as much as possible from the dark side of our existence. We run from pain, heartache, loss and death. We much prefer to seek out the company of laughter, pleasure, material gain and life.

Yet, all of us know---all of us dread---the inescapable reality of confronting and dealing with the specter of sorrow. As much as we try, we cannot avoid these things. Therefore, we countenance and embrace the moment we experience together today. If we cannot avoid it, if we cannot deny it, let us allow it to impact us so that we will achieve an greater understanding of God's purposes for us in our own lives.

Three important purposes draw us together here today:

We comfort and console those who have lost the most. I can't tell you how important it is for those who grieve over the death of a loved one to feel the support and sympathy of their family and friends. In fact, the word sympathy literally means to suffer with someone else. It is as though the human heart cries out to others "Do you know how much this hurts?" We can't make the source of the pain go away, but we can share the burden. It is comforting just to know that we are not suffering alone.

How much more it helps us to understand the care and compassion of the Almighty God in the midst of our grief!

1 Pet 5:7 Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.

1 Cor 10:13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

Rev 21:3 And I heard a great voice out of heaven saying, Behold, the tabernacle of God is with men, and he will dwell with them, and they shall be his people, and God himself shall be with them, and be their God. 4 And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.

Second, we are here today to celebrate the life of Danny M.. As I waited around the bedside last Monday, I heard the grandchildren talk about Papaw. They loved him very much. Someone even said that he didn’t think about himself, he only thought of them. Last Christmas was especially good because he wanted to watch every one of them open their presents and see the reaction on their faces. It seemed as if he was savoring the moments. As time goes on, there will be many more memories like this that will come to mind.

Finally, and the most difficult purpose to grasp, we must come to an understanding of our own mortality. It is time to recognize that the final period on the sentence of our individual lives brings everything to a halt and casts our attention backwards over the life that we have lived. If we fail in this moment, if we deny our own participation in the coming reality of our own demise, we will leave gaping holes in the completion of our lives.

Now is when we come face to face with the question of life itself. Are we created beings or organic accidents? Does the complex design of our bodies and minds reflect a designer? Is death a cessation of life, or a transfer to a different mode of life? If we are created by God, do we have a relationship with God? Is death only an event complicated by emotional distress and sadness? Or is death a passageway for which each of us must prepare to enter?

This is not a matter of the presence or absence of faith. Whatever your answer, you place your faith in it. How can any of us know the right answer?

Those of us who have had an encounter with God through Jesus Christ have an assurance of His reality and his comfort.

1 Cor 15:51-57 51. Behold, I shew you a mystery; We shall not all sleep, but we shall all be changed, 52 In a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trump: for the trumpet shall sound, and the dead shall be raised incorruptible, and we shall be changed. 53. For this corruptible must put on incorruption, and this mortal must put on immortality.

54. So when this corruptible shall have put on incorruption, and this mortal shall have put on immortality, then shall be brought to pass the saying that is written, Death is swallowed up in victory. 55. O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory? 56. The sting of death is sin; and the strength of sin is the law. 57. But thanks be to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.

When a person believes in the Lord Jesus Christ and accepts his gospel, the question of time and eternity is answered. Repentance brings forgiveness, baptism in the name of Jesus brings remission of sins, the infilling of the Holy Ghost brings new and powerful life. And the new life received from God through salvation is the life that will carry us beyond death into eternal life.

John 4:14. But whosoever drinketh of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life.

And so today, we comfort one another with our words and tears. We celebrate the life of our loved one, Danny M., through remembering who he was and what he did. But we answer the larger question of our moment with the understanding of life, death and eternity. And the importance of this last step eclipses the first two.

Jesus is the answer to the world today. Above Him there's no other. Jesus is the way.

 

Funeral Message for David L. V.

January 3, 2007

(David, 23, died suddenly of heart failure due to prolapsed mitrovalve. Parents were church members.)

I am sure I speak for David’s wife, Jennifer and the entire V. family today in expressing gratitude for your attendance today and all the love and support you have given them in the last few days. The floral tributes, the special gifts, the calls, cards and letters have been beautiful. You will never know how much your thoughtful words, your handshakes and hugs, and just your presence means at a time like this. We especially want to thank all of you who have prayed for the family. Every prayer was needed and felt.

Jennifer, Tommy, Ron and Diane, Eric, Josh, Janna and Becky---none of you, in your wildest imagination, ever dreamed you would be here today. Yet, in hindsight we have been able to see little things that God has used to prepare all of us for this moment. Yes, we all think of what has happened to David as an unthinkable tragedy…and all of us would love to have him back with us, and…miraculously… have life return back to the way it was when he went to work last Wednesday night. But, if that cannot be, then the next best blessing is that God would give us enough grace to accept David’s departure as his divine will.

In addition to Becky’s letter, I feel that I should share Ron’s recent experience with you. Last fall, during an eleven week training period for his job, he was far from his family and used the time as a spiritual retreat. In much prayer for his family, he mused about the strange behavior of the Psalmist David when his infant son had died. At that point, the king stopped praying and went about his life again. Ron concluded that he should pray for his family while he could because a time would come when he would no longer be able to pray. He thought maybe that something was going to happen to him, personally. Now, he realizes that it was not himself, but David, for whom he could no longer pray. God was preparing him for the crisis moment that lay ahead.

I want to talk about David today in the context of an insightful passage of scripture about another David, King David in the Bible, the same David who felled the giant Goliath and later, became Israel’s greatest king. David’s son, Solomon, had just completed the construction of a magnificent Temple and the time had come to dedicate it to the Lord. Somewhere in the middle of his speech, he made the following statements…

1 Kings 8:17 “And it was in the heart of David my father to build an house for the name of the LORD God of Israel. 18 And the LORD said unto David my father, Whereas it was in thine heart to build an house unto my name, thou didst well that it was in thine heart. 19 Nevertheless thou shalt not build the house; but thy son that shall come forth out of thy loins, he shall build the house unto my name. 20 And the LORD hath performed his word that he spake, and I am risen up in the room of David my father, and sit on the throne of Israel, as the LORD promised, and have built an house for the name of the LORD God of Israel. 21 And I have set there a place for the ark, wherein is the covenant of the LORD, which he made with our fathers, when he brought them out of the land of Egypt.” [1]

The latent message for us that rises from this ancient story speaks of the unrealized dreams of a man whose heart burned with a holy fervor. He dreamed of what could be; he worked at gathering materials and drawing plans for a fabulous house of God that he never got to build; the dream lived in his heart, but he didn’t get to see it come to fruition before his eyes.

From our finite human perspective, our hearts ache for a great man who was denied the opportunity of living out his dream. But in the economy of God, the sentiment, the potential, the capacity for achievement that burns within the human soul has substance that registers on heaven’s scale. God said, “Whereas it was in thine heart to build an house unto my name, thou didst well that it was in thine heart.” God reaps where he does not sow, he breathes in the fragrance of gardens that have never bloomed, he validates the future of unlived lives. God is the dream maker. Even as a child is a child at conception, long before it is born, a dream is sanctioned before God, long before it is ever delivered.

At twenty-three years of age, we understandably thought that David V. had a lot of living left to do. If quantity of life was not God’s will for David, then there must be some other way to measure his life. Because of the nature of the tragedy and the uncertainty that still surrounds it all, we may be swayed to think more of what could have been or what should have been, rather than to remember what was. The unwrought purposes of David’s heart must not be forgotten. They were seeds, shadows, intimations of that were as real in the sight of God the same as if they actually happened. The question that must occupy our minds at this point is what was in David’s heart?

First, David’s heart had a lot of love in it. From the letters you’ve heard, you know a lot about the way David thought and acted. He grew up in a loving family and had a close relationship with his brothers and sisters. The slide show that played and the many pictures on display told the story of a fun-filled and happy childhood. The abundance of friends that have come yesterday and today are evidence of the love he gave and received from his peer group. When he joined the army, he often called his mother from Korea where he was stationed. He was a loving person, and his wife, Jennifer, will tell you that he loved her and Tommy very deeply. When Tommy was six years old, David would take him sledding, skating and other fun activities. He played a lot of games with him and taught him how to play baseball. He was a devoted husband. Almost every break time at work found him on phone talking to Jennifer and they enjoyed a close and happy marriage.

David’s heart had a lot of determination in it. When he decided he was going to do something, that’s the way it was. He told Jennifer he loved her and was going to marry her years before she finally said yes. He never wavered or gave up until he captured her heart. He was determined that he would be a good provider, and he was never without a job for very long, if at all. Even at a relatively young age, he strove for financial security and responsibility. He paid his bills, and didn’t owe his parents a dime. That’s pretty remarkable. And, his determination was always focused on doing the right thing.

David’s heart had a lot of character in it. He never succumbed to a lot of the vices that ensnare many young people of today. His mother says that while many of his buddies went out drinking and partying in the service, David would hang around the base on weekends, playing video games and watching DVD’s. One of his commanding officers even invited David to his house for Christmas…not a common occurrence. He maintained a moral standard wherever he was, and when he came home from Korea, he wanted nothing more than to immerse himself in being a good husband and dad.

David’s heart had a lot of giving in it. Even before he married Jennifer, he was worried that she would have enough money to provide a good Christmas for Tommy. One night when she went to her car after work, she opened the car door and found that David had taped three hundred dollars to the underside of the handle. Maybe that was part of the plot to win her heart, but it was also a show of unselfish giving to someone in need. There are many other instances where David showed his giving nature.

So, this I say to all who may be asking the dreaded question, why did this happen: God did not need to see any more fulfillment to David’s life than what he had already lived. It was good that these things were in his heart. It is proof that the essence of a life is not to be found in longevity, but in quality. It is to be found in love, in determination, in character, in giving. And, in the end, whether we lived one year or one hundred years, it will matter little by eternal standards. 1 Corinthians 15:19 says “If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable.” Those who know Jesus Christ do not have hope in this life only. We have a hope that transcends the hours on the clock and the days on the calendar.

David took care of his spiritual obligations while he was a young child. He was baptized in Jesus’ name and filled with the Holy Ghost. He knew the Apostolic message well, and in his heart, he never abandoned the truths that he was taught. No, everything had not yet come together for him in his life. He still had some learning and growing to do, but at twenty-three, most people do. But, when you look deeply into David’s heart, you see some good things. Jennifer, Ron and Diane, he may have only been twenty-three, but you can be proud of who he was.

Let me conclude by going back to the dream that David, the King, cherished in his heart.

King David did not build God's house, but David's son, Solomon, did.

1 Chronicles 22:9-10 “Behold, a son shall be born to thee, who shall be a man of rest; and I will give him rest from all his enemies round about: for his name shall be Solomon, and I will give peace and quietness unto Israel in his days. He shall build an house for my name; and he shall be my son, and I will be his father; and I will establish the throne of his kingdom over Israel for ever.”

Look what happened to the greater son of David, Jesus Christ. He gathered the materials to build the temple greater than Solomon's.  He called, mentored, led, taught and inspired his disciples.  It appeared that the Great Son of David would never see the completion of his house, not because he shed the blood of others, but because of the shedding of his own blood.  Beaten and bruised, mocked and spat upon, bound and crucified, it looked as though the eternal purpose of God was stopped in its tracks.

Peter sank into depression when he looked at the mangled figure, brutally nailed to a tree like a common thief. The women at the cross wept and wailed, evil smirks curled the lips of the tormentors of Christ and Pilate feasted in his back chambers.  But when his enemies laid him in a borrowed tomb, they did not destroy the unwrought purposes of God. They unwittingly participated in the fulfillment of the very purpose they sought to thwart. 1 John 3:8 …For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that he might destroy the works of the devil.

In the end, in the great consummation of all things, there shall be no unwrought purposes in the plan of God.

Revelation 21:1-7

1 And I saw a new heaven and a new earth: for the first heaven and the first earth were passed away; and there was no more sea.  2 And I John saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down from God out of heaven, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband.  3 And I heard a great voice out of heaven saying, Behold, the tabernacle of God is with men, and he will dwell with them, and they shall be his people, and God himself shall be with them, and be their God.  4 And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.  5 And he that sat upon the throne said, Behold, I make all things new. And he said unto me, Write: for these words are true and faithful.  6 And he said unto me, It is done. I am Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end. I will give unto him that is athirst of the fountain of the water of life freely.  7 He that overcometh shall inherit all things; and I will be his God, and he shall be my son.

God always has somebody to help bring dreams to fulfillment. I wonder who the Dream Maker will use to give life to the dreams of David V.?

Funeral Service for Debra L.

August 1, 1998

  • H. H. Birkenkamp
  • Organ music:
  • Scripture Reading: II Corinthians 5:1-9; Psalm 23
  • Obituary
  • Message
  • Song
  • Closing Prayer

(Debra L. was a middle-aged woman. She died of unexpectedly of a heart condition. Indirectly connected to a family in the church.)

Message

What we face today, humanity has faced since time began. The questions never get any easier. Why death? Why Debra? Why now? My job today is not to give you the answers---that would be impossible. Rather, my job is to point you in the right direction. These answers will never be found in bitter tears alone; they will not be found in the gamut of emotions ranging from anger to numbing sorrow. But modern questions are still answered best by ancient answers.

I am drawn to the scriptures in Hebrews 2:14-18 “Since the children have flesh and blood, he too shared in their humanity so that by his death he might destroy him who holds the power of death-- that is, the devil--and free those who all their lives were held in slavery by their fear of death. For surely it is not angels he helps, but Abraham's descendants. For this reason he had to be made like his brothers in every way, in order that he might become a merciful and faithful high priest in service to God, and that he might make atonement for the sins of the people. Because he himself suffered when he was tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted.” (NIV)

First, note that our Lord Jesus Christ shared our humanity.

At Bethlehem, God became what He had never been before. The Creator became the creature, eternity’s God became time’s man, Jehovah of the Old Testament became the Jesus of the New, the Word in thought became the Word in Flesh. Some say that this only stakes out a dry, inconsequential doctrinal position. The Bible teaches, however, that this is the linchpin upon which the entire revelation of God to this world turns. It brings a God who was afar off close and intimate with us. Through the incarnation, we enjoy an affinity with deity that all the saints before Bethlehem dreamed of but never knew.

Jesus revealed the Mighty God in Christ.  Jesus affords mankind the only way to see God.  In Jesus, the Great Father wept, hungered, became weary, felt temptations, suffered and experienced all of the emotion and pathos of life. Jesus shared our humanity.

Second, Jesus became human that he might die.

John 12:30-33 And I, if I be lifted up from the earth, will draw all men unto me. This he said, signifying what death he should die.

Jesus did not come to establish another religion in a world already glutted with religion. He did not come just to teach, preach, organize or conduct a revolution. He did many things, but the overarching purpose of his appearing was to die. That which mankind instinctively avoids and fears constituted the prized goal and ultimate quest of our Lord Jesus Christ. Through his death, he accomplished what never would have been possible otherwise.

Third, Jesus died that he might conquer death.

When cried out with a loud voice, “It is finished,” when the frail, bruised body of Jesus shuddered and died, Satan appeared to have won the final round. But Jesus knew something that all his enemies---the raging crowd, the Roman soldiers, the religious hierarchy, and Satan himself---did not know. Reaching through the veil of death, he grasped the victors crown. He revealed that the only reason death reigned in the world of man was sin. It was sin that empowered the weapon of death in the hand of Satan. When Jesus died, for the first time in the history of man, a sinless being died. Jesus took no sin with him into the grave, therefore the grave was powerless to keep him there.

Of his life, Jesus said in John 10:18, “No man taketh it from me, but I lay it down of myself. I have power to lay it down, and I have power to take it again. Not only did he take it up again, he gave us the same power to enter into eternal life.

Thus we read in I Corinthians 15, Now this I say, brethren, that flesh and blood cannot inherit the kingdom of God; neither doth corruption inherit incorruption. Behold, I shew you a mystery; We shall not all sleep, but we shall all be changed, In a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trump: for the trumpet shall sound, and the dead shall be raised incorruptible, and we shall be changed. For this corruptible must put on incorruption, and this mortal must put on immortality. So when this corruptible shall have put on incorruption, and this mortal shall have put on immortality, then shall be brought to pass the saying that is written, Death is swallowed up in victory. O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory? The sting of death is sin; and the strength of sin is the law. But thanks be to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.

And now, through Jesus Christ’s life, death, burial and resurrection, we see,

Not an end, but a beginning, Not grief, but a cause for celebration, Not sorrow, but rejoicing, Not tears of sadness, but radiant beams of joy.

Rom 8:31-39 What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us? He that spared not his own Son, but delivered him up for us all, how shall he not with him also freely give us all things? Who shall lay any thing to the charge of God's elect? It is God that justifieth. Who is he that condemneth? It is Christ that died, yea rather, that is risen again, who is even at the right hand of God, who also maketh intercession for us. Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter. Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

 

Funeral Message for Donald M.

December 9, 2000

Thomas Wisniewski Funeral Home

(Donald M., 75, was the father of a family in the church. He never attended. He was an honored veteran, recipient of the Purple Heart and other medals. He died of a heart condition.)

Ecclesiastes 7:2 It is better to go to the house of mourning, than to go to the house of feasting: for that is the end of all men; and the living will lay it to his heart.  3 Sorrow is better than laughter: for by the sadness of the countenance the heart is made better.  4 The heart of the wise is in the house of mourning; but the heart of fools is in the house of mirth.

Ecclesiastes 7:8  Better is the end of a thing than the beginning thereof:

All of us are loathe to attend funerals. They seem to represent the antithesis of everything we want or hope for in life. We distance ourselves as much as possible from the dark side of our existence. We run from pain, heartache, loss and death. We much prefer to seek out the company of laughter, pleasure, material gain and life.

Yet, all of us know---all of us dread---the inescapable reality of confronting and dealing with the specter of sorrow. As much as we try, we cannot avoid these things. Therefore, we countenance and embrace the moment we experience together today. If we cannot avoid it, if we cannot deny it, let us allow it to impact us so that we will achieve an greater understanding of God's purposes for us in our own lives.

We are here today for at least three reasons:

1. To comfort and console those who have lost the most. I can't tell you how important it is for those who grieve over the death of a loved one to feel the support and sympathy of their family and friends. In fact, the word sympathy literally means to suffer with someone else. It is as though the human heart cries out to others "Do you know how much this hurts?" We can't make the source of the pain go away, but we can share the burden. It is comforting just to know that we are not suffering alone.

How much more it helps us to understand the care and compassion of the Almighty God in the midst of our grief!

1 Pet 5:7 Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.

1 Cor 10:13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

Rev 21:3 And I heard a great voice out of heaven saying, Behold, the tabernacle of God is with men, and he will dwell with them, and they shall be his people, and God himself shall be with them, and be their God. 4 And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.

2. The second reason we are here today is to celebrate the life of the one who has now left us. As I read in the obituary, Donald M. was a man of many accomplishments. He was an athlete who won notoriety with his abilities in track and field; he was a war hero who was awarded the highest battlefield honor that his country could bestow; he was a self-motivated entrepreneur. He loved his children and enjoyed a positive relationship with them into their adult lives. I'm sure there are stories that will be told and handed down to future generations about all the things that happened in the family.

3. The last reason we are here today is really the most difficult to grasp. It is to come to an understanding of our own mortality; to recognize that the final period on the sentence of our individual lives brings everything to a halt and casts our attention backwards over the life that we have lived. If we fail in this moment, if we deny our own participation in the coming reality of our own demise, we will leave gaping holes in the completion of our lives.

Now is when we come face to face with the question of life itself.  Are we created beings or organic accidents?  Does the complex design of our bodies and minds reflect a designer?  Is death a cessation of life, or a transfer to a different mode of life?  If we are created by God, do we have a relationship with God?  Is death only an event complicated by emotional distress and sadness?  Or is death a passageway for which each of us must prepare to enter?  This is not a matter of the presence or absence of faith.  Whatever your answer, you place your faith in it.

How can any of us know the right answer?  Those of us who have had an encounter with God through Jesus Christ have an assurance of His reality and his comfort.

1 Cor 15:51-57 Behold, I shew you a mystery; We shall not all sleep, but we shall all be changed,  52 In a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trump: for the trumpet shall sound, and the dead shall be raised incorruptible, and we shall be changed.  53 For this corruptible must put on incorruption, and this mortal must put on immortality.  54 So when this corruptible shall have put on incorruption, and this mortal shall have put on immortality, then shall be brought to pass the saying that is written, Death is swallowed up in victory.  55 O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory?  56 The sting of death is sin; and the strength of sin is the law.  57 But thanks be to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.  (KJV)

When a person believes in the Lord Jesus Christ and accepts his gospel, the question of time and eternity is answered. Repentance brings forgiveness, baptism in the name of Jesus brings remission of sins, the infilling of the Holy Ghost brings new and powerful life. And the new life receive from God through salvation is the life that will carry us beyond death into eternal life.

John 4:14 But whosoever drinketh of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life.

And so today, we comfort one another with our words and tears. We celebrate the life of our loved one, Donald M., through remembering who he was and what he did. But we answer the larger question of our moment with the understanding of life, death and eternity. And the importance of this last step eclipses the first two.

Jesus is the answer to the world today.  Above Him there's no other.  Jesus is the way.

 

Fred C. Funeral

November 13, 1997

Mitchell-Auxter

Clyde, Oh

1:30 PM

  • Reading of Scripture: Psalm 90, 23
  • “The Old Rugged Cross”
  • Obituary
  • Poem
  • Prayer
  • Message
  • “Amazing Grace”

(Fred C. was an elderly man, brother of a prominent church family, came to church as a small child. He was living in a nursing home at time of death, died of liver complications.)

Message

John 11:33-38; 41-44

I. The Power of Love

Jesus loved Mary, Martha and Lazarus, as he loves all of us. Yet, there is no record that he expressed this before now. The loss of a loved one serves to magnify the love we had for them.

Fred C. was a man who loved. He loved his family deeply, his grandchildren, and his wife, Hazel, who preceded him in death, sixteen years to the day. While he may not have been able to give his family everything they wanted, he faithfully provided all the necessities of life for them.

He loved the outdoors. Not only did he farm, he served as a Scoutmaster for the Boy Scouts for a number of years, and also liked to go fishing whenever he could. He often took his own father fishing out on Lake Erie.

Fred C. had a love for God and the church. He made sure that his family was in church, even driving up to Sandusky for several years to the Apostolic church until he was no longer physical able to go.

Fred and Hazel C. had a very close relationship. After she died, he entered into a troubled period of his life. But only those who have gone through the same experience can know the depths of agony and inner suffering that the death of a spouse can cause. I see, in the midst of his trouble, evidence of deep love that could find no solitude.

John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

Romans 5:6-8 For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly. For scarcely for a righteous man will one die: yet peradventure for a good man some would even dare to die. But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.

While it is love that makes death so hard, it is also love which makes it bearable. And it is the love of God that give it the greatest uplifting and meaning of all.

II. The Power of Death.

Fred C. had been in decline for the last few years. He, no doubt, knew that death was not far away. But, he could not, as none of us can, stop it.

Lazarus succumbed to the unrelenting power of death which faces us all. Love could not stop this power from invading the domain of life. But Lazarus had a friend who could.

John 11:20-26 Then Martha, as soon as she heard that Jesus was coming, went and met him: but Mary sat still in the house. Then said Martha unto Jesus, Lord, if thou hadst been here, my brother had not died. But I know, that even now, whatsoever thou wilt ask of God, God will give it thee. Jesus saith unto her, Thy brother shall rise again. Martha saith unto him, I know that he shall rise again in the resurrection at the last day.

Jesus said unto her, I am the resurrection, and the life: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live: And whosoever liveth and believeth in me shall never die. Believest thou this?

What was Jesus saying? That he alone had the power to conquer death. He proved that he had that power by restoring Lazarus to life. But there were countless others who he did not resurrect. Why? Because he used his power over natural death to illustrate for us all that he had the power over spiritual death. Even though we may succumb to death in this life, we do not have to succumb to eternal death.

The power of death can be met and conquered through a right relationship with Jesus Christ.

Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

When Peter preached to the very people who crucified Christ, they were deeply moved.

Acts 2:37-39 Now when they heard this, they were pricked in their heart, and said unto Peter and to the rest of the apostles, Men and brethren, what shall we do? Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.

For the promise is unto you, and to your children, and to all that are afar off, even as many as the Lord our God shall call.

III. The Power To Decide

Jesus stood at Lazarus tomb with love for the man and power over death.

He alone had the power to set the process in motion that would restore life. Today, he had made his power accessible to everyone who believes. That means that you have power...the power of decision over your eternal destiny.

Let me ask you today what your decision will be. The occasion of death is more than a time for eulogies and memories. It is also a time for soul-searching and solemn thought. It is a time for a return to time-honored truths, for re-consecration to God.

 

Funeral Message for Geraldine H.

January 28, 2000

(Geraldine H., 64, died of cancer. Her husband was a church member. She attended several times with him.)

2 Cor 5:1-9  Now we know that if the earthly tent we live in is destroyed, we have a building from God, an eternal house in heaven, not built by human hands.  2 Meanwhile we groan, longing to be clothed with our heavenly dwelling,  3 because when we are clothed, we will not be found naked.  4 For while we are in this tent, we groan and are burdened, because we do not wish to be unclothed but to be clothed with our heavenly dwelling, so that what is mortal may be swallowed up by life.  5 Now it is God who has made us for this very purpose and has given us the Spirit as a deposit, guaranteeing what is to come.  6 Therefore we are always confident and know that as long as we are at home in the body we are away from the Lord.  7 We live by faith, not by sight.  8 We are confident, I say, and would prefer to be away from the body and at home with the Lord.  9 So we make it our goal to please him, whether we are at home in the body or away from it.  (NIV)

Geraldine H. was best defined as a mother. She loved her children (she had ten) and they were her everything. She was the chief babysitter. She cooked, washed, cleaned, sewed, everything she could do to nurture and care for her children and grandchildren.

Geraldine had a cheerful personality, always had a smile for the neighbors, and made everyone feel welcome. She was a morning person, and loved to sit out one the porch in the morning, drinking her coffee, and enjoying her roses.

One of her sons wrote a letter that will be buried with her, expressing his sadness that she will not be there in the morning with her smile. She was always there for her family. We are sorrowing today for our loss, but rejoicing that her long night of suffering is over.

Since she loved roses so much, I found this poem that fits so well with her.

The Scent of the Roses

Let fate do her worst, there are relics of joy,

Bright dreams of the past which she cannot destroy.

Which come in the night-time of sorrow and care,

And bring back the features that joy used to wear.

Long, long be my heart with such memories filled,

Like the vase in which roses have once been distilled.

You may break, you may shatter the vase if you will,

But the scent of the roses will hang around it still.

Thomas Moore

The Bible text I read for you speaks of an idea that seems to be contradictory. How is it that we would prefer to be away from the body and be present with the Lord?

 

Funeral Message for Gregory J.

June 3, 2004

(Gregory J., 46, died suddenly and unexpectedly from a brain aneurism. His wife and mother-in-law were church members. Greg was raised as a Catholic. He came to First Apostolic Church once or twice. This service was shared with a Reader from St. Joseph’s parish, Sylvania.)

Mark 4:35-41 “On the same day, when evening had come, He said to them, "Let us cross over to the other side."36 Now when they had left the multitude, they took Him along in the boat as He was. And other little boats were also with Him.37 And a great windstorm arose, and the waves beat into the boat, so that it was already filling.38 But He was in the stern, asleep on a pillow. And they awoke Him and said to Him,"Teacher, do You not care that we are perishing?" 39 Then He arose and rebuked the wind, and said to the sea, "Peace, be still!" And the wind ceased and there was a great calm.40 But He said to them, "Why are you so fearful? How is it that you have no faith?" 41 And they feared exceedingly, and said to one another, "Who can this be, that even the wind and the sea obey Him!" NKJV

Greg J. lived in a big world. It was, in fact, as big as all outdoors. He was more comfortable with saplings and shrubs than suits and ties; he would rather have worked with rich soil than papers and books; he found the freedom of blue skies and more appealing than closed-in rooms. He was the kind of guy that the rest of us men who used to be boys envy. Just think…to go outside and play in the dirt, and drive monster machinery…and get paid for it!

Greg loved it…almost as much as he loved his family. The video presentation gives us a beautiful insight into the special relationship he had with his wife and children…lots of fun, laughter, activity and good times. He pulled all of them into his big world and shared what he loved with them. The poet said, “Come forth into the light of things, Let Nature be your Teacher.” (William Wordsworth) (1770 - 1850). This was Greg’s life and light.

If you will indulge me a little, I want to share with you something I wrote about a year ago that I think applies to Greg. It is part of a writing project about Olander Park here in Sylvania. I often walk there, and looking at the trees, this thought began to grow.

“Big oaks and cottonwoods dominate Olander’s tree population, no doubt owing their existence to the forgetfulness of squirrels and the snows of cottonwood seeds that inundate the Midwest every June. Park walkers know about other species too, like Douglas Firs, Honey Locusts, Sycamores, Sassafras, Black Walnuts and a variety of maples and evergreens. These weren’t all random plantings. Tree planters, themselves a rare species, envision those legendary poems of God where most only see empty space. They measure time in decades and centuries, not months and years. The hurried pace that pushes of the rest of us has no effect on them, and they make time their friend. I envy them. I love trees too, but I lack the interminable patience of the people who plant them. Today, when I see a tree by the trail or across the lake, I see heart…a life…a planter’s statement of faith in their vision. God, grant me the faith to plant a vision today.”

So, here we are in this strange place today. We’re not used to being here without Greg. He always knew what to do. His steady hand brought assurance and calm to so many storms. Questions swirl around in our minds and the bits and pieces of answers that come to us don’t work…as least not now. In the scripture text I read to you, the storm on Galilee threw the disciples of Christ into a panic. It wasn’t that they had never experienced storms before, but that this one was so unexpected. Perhaps they thought that this kind of thing couldn’t happen with the Master on board. But, Jesus, althought he was on board, was asleep. In their minds, it was a double threat; first, the treachery of the wind and waves, and then the seeming lack of care and the unconcern of Jesus.

I suppose one of the greatest difficulties we mortals must go through is when life doesn’t measure up to our expectations…when reality thrusts a far different set of circumstances into our lives than what we had envisioned. While we are in the middle of the turmoil, we feel helpless…anger, resentment, despair…all those emotions tear at us without mercy. There’s probably no way to get to where we need to go without going through these things.

Jesus didn’t stop the storm from rising. Instead, he arose against the storm and said, “Peace. Be still.” He sternly rebuked the wind, but then he gently calmed the disciples, reminding them to not be afraid, but to have faith. The Master was then…and always…the Master. Our faith is not tied to the circumstances, but to the only one who can step to the forefront of our lives and bring peace with a word and the wave of his hand.

Until the wind dies down and the waves subside, let’s remember Greg. Let’s remember how much he loved…how fortunate you are to have had him for a husband, a father, a brother, a relative and a friend…how much fun and enjoyment he brought to your life. Think of how impoverished you would have been without the forty-eight years he was here…of how rich you are because you knew him…of the great things he taught you just by his example alone. He was a tree-planter. The faith and vision he had will always remain with you and it will become your inspiration for life.

A few years ago, I walked out into a wooded area of our church property to inspect some small trees and saplings that could be replanted. While most of them were beautiful and full, there were some that were misshapen and poorly developed. All of them, however, taken together, make up a beautiful forest. So we walk into life, expecting to find beauty everywhere we look. We inspect the experiences, the elements of life one by one, and sometimes we find a sorrow here or a tragedy there that deeply offends us. We may walk away confused, hurt, or even embittered. Yet, taken together, they make up life on a larger scale. This, for now, is all we have. Eternity remains an unrealized mystery. Today, in the presence of death, we gain a new perspective of life. Today, faced with an unanswerable tragedy, we somehow discover a transcendent answer. The forest will be beautiful again.

Let us put our trust in the Master. To those of us who know him intimately, he is our best friend. We who are immersed in his name, and who are the earthen vessels where his spirit resides, know that he is the covert in the time of storm. He absorbs the shock and shields us from the blast when we hide in him.

Let’s pray.

Jerry Davis Funeral

August 29, 1996

Ansberg-West

  • 11 AM
  • Reading of Scripture: Psalm 90, 23
  • Obituary
  • Poem
  • Prayer
  • Song: Monica Trzcinski

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Message

John 11:33-38; 41-44

I. The Power of Love

Jesus loved Mary, Martha and Lazarus, as he loves all of us.
Yet, there is no record that he expressed this before now.
The loss of a loved one serves to magify the love we had for them.
Jerry D. was a man who loved.
He loved his family deeply, his grandchildren, and his wife, Dorothy, who preceded him in death
He also loved his job, a firefighter for over thirty years in the City of Toledo.

John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

Romans 5:6-8 For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly. 7 For scarcely for a righteous man will one die: yet peradventure for a good man some would even dare to die. 8 But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.

While it is love that makes death so hard, it is also love which makes it bearable. And it is the love of God that give it the greatest uplifting and meaning of all.

II. The Power of Death.

Lazarus succumbed to the unrelenting power of death which faces us all.
Love could not stop this power from invading the domain of life.
But Lazarus had a friend who could.

John 11:20-26 Then Martha, as soon as she heard that Jesus was coming, went and met him: but Mary sat still in the house.  21 Then said Martha unto Jesus, Lord, if thou hadst been here, my brother had not died.   22 But I know, that even now, whatsoever thou wilt ask of God, God will give it thee.   23 Jesus saith unto her, Thy brother shall rise again.   24 Martha saith unto him, I know that he shall rise again in the resurrection at the last day. 25 Jesus said unto her, I am the resurrection, and the life: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live: 26 And whosoever liveth and believeth in me shall never die. Believest thou this?

The power of death can only be met and conquered through a right relationship with Jesus Christ.

Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.
When Peter preached to the very people who crucified Christ, they were deeply moved.

Acts 2:37-39  Now when they heard this, they were pricked in their heart, and said unto Peter and to the rest of the apostles, Men and brethren, what shall we do? 38 Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost. 39 For the promise is unto you, and to your children, and to all that are afar off, even as many as the Lord our God shall call.

III. The Power To Decide

Jesus stood at Lazarus tomb with love for the man and power over death.  He alone had the power to set the process in motion that would restore life.  Today, he had made his power accessible to everyone who believes.  That means that you have power...the power of decision over your eternal destiny.

 

Funeral Message for Keith W. F.

December 11, 2000

Deck-Hanneman Funeral Home

Bowling Green, Ohio

Psalm 61:1-8

1 Hear my cry, O God; attend unto my prayer. 2 From the end of the earth will I cry unto thee, when my heart is overwhelmed: lead me to the rock that is higher than I. 3 For thou hast been a shelter for me, and a strong tower from the enemy. 4 I will abide in thy tabernacle for ever: I will trust in the covert of thy wings. Selah. 5 For thou, O God, hast heard my vows: thou hast given me the heritage of those that fear thy name. 6 Thou wilt prolong the king's life: and his years as many generations. 7 He shall abide before God for ever: O prepare mercy and truth, which may preserve him. 8 So will I sing praise unto thy name for ever, that I may daily perform my vows.

The loss of a loved one at Christmas time seems especially difficult to bear. I know that your families were looking forward to spending at least one more Christmas with Dad or Grandpa, although you feared it would be the last.

Maybe you had already purchased your gift for him, or had talked with each other about what you could get him. Whatever your plans, it may seem to be a cruel twist of fate for him to be taken during a time that is meant to be so joyous and happy.  But God is not cruel. And there is no random fate---only God-ordained destiny.  And so, instead of trying to pick out a gift that you had hoped would be suitable for him, you find yourself contemplating something infinitely better: the rich heritage of a good father.   This year, he outdid any gift you could buy for him.

The Psalmist wrote: "For thou, O God, hast heard my vows: thou hast given me the heritage of those that fear thy name."

No family, no son or daughter, no grandchild could receive a better gift than the love of a father, a good name, a righteous character, and a set of high and moral values in life.

I think there are at least three wonderful gifts that we are in possession of today that may rightfully be called a heritage. Whatever personal affects that this man left behind; whatever assets he willed to his children; whatever proud moments he may be remembered for---his true heritage transcends them all.

Keith F. gave the gift of love for family. While talking with Chris yesterday, she stressed the fact that her father believed in family togetherness. In fact, his family was more important to Keith F. than anything else in life.

He gave them time.
He gave them a father-son and a father-daughter relationship.
He gave them---not the dregs, the leftovers, the brief seconds between complaints of tiredness---but the main thrust of his life.
Love for family is a basic and precious value that seems to be diminishing in our society.

Luke 12:15 says, "And he said unto them, Take heed, and beware of covetousness: for a man's life consisteth not in the abundance of the things which he possesseth." May God help every one of us to emulate, or revive if necessary, this gift in our own lives.

Keith F. gave the gift of honor to his family. Many people talk about love and togetherness. But their high and noble phrases crumble quickly when someone examines their lives.  Here was a man who not only said what he believed, he devoted himself to living out the ideals.  The true value of a precious commodity is dependent upon its condition. Antique dealers and collectors pore over many pieces looking for one that is in mint condition. The question is not necessarily how old it is, but what kind of shape it is in.  In human terms, we might say a good find is one that has retained or preserved its honor. It has weathered the storms, it has withstood the passage of time, and it holds its original luster.  Honor is a marvelous gift. It becomes a forceful influence on children and grandchildren, and future generations.

Keith F. gave the gift of faith to his family. I realize that no one can actually give faith except God alone, but in the sense that faith is practiced and modeled by an individual, it becomes a precious gift.  Keith F. saw to it that his children went to church on a regular basis. He saw to it that Christ and the Holy Bible were honored in his home.  In his later years, he drew even closer to God, but he, along with his wife Mary, always desired their family to have a healthy respect for the things of God.   Again, when we look at our society and its outright abandonment of faith, its methodical destruction of Christian tenets and beliefs, and its pursuit of pleasure and paganism, this gift stands in even greater stead than we might imagine.

None of us stand alone.  We build our lives using the building blocks that are given to us by the previous generation.  But, of course, the greatest gift of all is not one that Keith F., nor anyone had or has the ability to give---the gift of eternal life.

John 3:16 "For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life."

As much as a father loves his family, as much as he desires to provide the best possible life for them, he cannot give them salvation.  Suffice it to say that Keith F. no doubt wanted every child, every grandchild, every relative of his to have this gift.  If you are yet outside the fold of Christ, if you have not yet taken the package of Christ's death, burial and resurrection, then this Christmas season could be the best one you have ever enjoyed

Death through repentance.
Burial through baptism in Jesus' name.
Resurrection through the glorious infilling of God's Spirit. This indeed is the best gift.

Fred J. Foster, my old Bible College president, wrote this poem entitled "You Were Here" that I think is so fitting today:

You were here yesterday
But today you are gone
Taking with you wonderful things
And especially your song
But I remember you leaving
A lot of great and noble acts
Your life, if it were written,
Would be filled with wonderful facts.
Telling us to have courage
Buck up in life's test
And when the sunset would come
We would know we did our best.
Saying to everyone along the way
There's got to be a song
There's got to be a hope in life
In this you can’t go wrong.
You did leave with us
Treasures of purest gold
Your walk through this vale
The half has not been told.

-Fred J. Foster

Today, Keith F.---Dad, Grandpa, brother, uncle and friend---hands to you an early Christmas present, with love.
Open it and cherish it.
It is love for family, honor, and love of God.
You will not open a better gift this year, nor in any Christmas in the future.

 

Funeral Message for Michael W. Blaisdell

November 2, 2006

First Apostolic Church

Ecclesiastes 12:1-5  Remember your Creator in the days of your youth, before the days of trouble come and the years approach when you will say, "I find no pleasure in them"- 2 before the sun and the light and the moon and the stars grow dark, and the clouds return after the rain; 3 when the keepers of the house tremble, and the strong men stoop, when the grinders cease because they are few, and those looking through the windows grow dim; 4 when the doors to the street are closed and the sound of grinding fades; when men rise up at the sound of birds, but all their songs grow faint; 5 when men are afraid of heights and of dangers in the streets; when the almond tree blossoms and the grasshopper drags himself along and desire no longer is stirred. Then man goes to his eternal home and mourners go about the streets. NIV

Ecclesiastes 7:8 Better is the end of a thing than the beginning thereof:

All of us are loathe to attend funerals. They seem to represent the antithesis of everything we want or hope for in life. We distance ourselves as much as possible from the dark side of our existence. We run from pain, heartache, loss and death. We much prefer to seek out the company of laughter, pleasure, material gain and life.

Yet, all of us know---all of us dread---the inescapable reality of confronting and dealing with the specter of sorrow. As much as we try, we cannot avoid these things. Therefore, we countenance and embrace the moment we experience together today. If we cannot avoid it, if we cannot deny it, let us allow it to impact us so that we will achieve a greater understanding of God's purposes for us in our own lives.

First, we are here today to comfort and console those who have lost the most. I can't tell you how important it is for those who grieve over the death of a loved one to feel the support and sympathy of their family and friends. In fact, the word sympathy literally means to suffer with someone else. It is as though the human heart cries out to others "Do you know how much this hurts?" We can't make the source of the pain go away, but we can share the burden. It is comforting just to know that we are not suffering alone.

How much more it helps us to understand the care and compassion of the Almighty God in the midst of our grief!

1 Peter 5:7 Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.

Revelation 21:3 And I heard a great voice out of heaven saying, Behold, the tabernacle of God is with men, and he will dwell with them, and they shall be his people, and God himself shall be with them, and be their God. 4 And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.

Second, we have come today to celebrate the life of the one who has now left us. As you have heard, Mike left a deep impression on the people in his life, his children and his friends. In talking with Mary, it is her conviction---and rightly so---that everyone leaves a legacy of himself behind. This legacy consists of the things a person has loved, the things he did, his goals, dreams and desires.

Finally, we are here today come to an understanding of our own mortality; to recognize that the final period on the sentence of our individual lives brings everything to a halt and casts our attention backwards over the life that we have lived. If we fail in this moment, if we deny our own participation in the coming reality of our own demise, we will leave gaping holes in the completion of our lives.

Now is when we come face to face with the question of life itself.  Does the complex design of our bodies and minds reflect a designer?  Are we created beings or organic accidents?  Is death a cessation of life, or a transfer to a different mode of life?  If we are created by God, do we have a relationship with God?  Is death only an event complicated by emotional distress and sadness?  Or is death a passageway for which each of us must prepare to enter?  This is not a matter of the presence or absence of faith.  Whatever your answer, you place your faith in it.  How can any of us know the right answer?  Those of us who have had an encounter with God through Jesus Christ have an assurance of His reality and his comfort.

1 Cor 15:55-57 O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory?  56 The sting of death is sin; and the strength of sin is the law.  57 But thanks be to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.  Christ answers the question of time and eternity…The new life we receive from God through salvation is the life that will carry us beyond death into eternal life.  John 4:14 But whosoever drinketh of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life.

And so today, we comfort one another with our words and tears. We celebrate the life of our loved one, Mike Blaisdell, through remembering who he was and what he did. But we answer the larger question of our moment with the understanding of life, death and eternity. And the importance of this last step eclipses the first two.

Jesus is the answer to the world today.  Above Him there's no other.  Jesus is the way.

(Prayer)

Let us stand and quote together Numbers 6:24-26 The LORD bless thee, and keep thee: 25 The LORD make his face shine upon thee, and be gracious unto thee: 26 The LORD lift up his countenance upon thee, and give thee peace.

 

William B.

May 2, 1926 – March 25, 2001

March 28, 2001

Reeb Funeral Home, Sylvania, Ohio

Psalm 94:17-22 Unless the LORD had been my help, my soul had almost dwelt in silence.  18 When I said, My foot slippeth; thy mercy, O LORD, held me up.  19 In the multitude of my thoughts within me thy comforts delight my soul.  20 Shall the throne of iniquity have fellowship with thee, which frameth mischief by a law?  21 They gather themselves together against the soul of the righteous, and condemn the innocent blood.  22 But the LORD is my defence; and my God is the rock of my refuge.

Jack B. was a friend to everyone. His true congeniality attracted people to him, as evidenced by the large numbers who visited yesterday and are in attendance today. Jack was a big man, but his disarming smile and easy-going manner made anyone he met feel comfortable, not intimidated.

As you know, one of the traits Jack B. was known for was his quick wit and agile mind. Although he never had the opportunity for much formal education, he was able to hold his own in any test of mental skills.

In the waning days and then hours of his life, Jack gave every indication that he was alert and comprehending what was going on around him. The tubes in his mouth prevented him from expressing his thoughts to those around him, but there was never any doubt that his mind was active right up to the end.

Jack’s intelligence, a family trait I might add, meant that he was rich in thought. It is the capacity for thought that makes humans uniquely different from other forms of life. We are conscious of our environment and of ourselves. Through our thoughts, we transcend the limitations of our existence and surroundings.

Thinking can usher us into the courts of kings, or dens of evil.  Our thoughts may surround us with noble company, or vile monsters.  Thoughts may sweeten our days with pleasant moods, or haunt us with bitter memories.  “The Essence”, Wellsprings, Anthony de Mello

This propensity for thought leads me to consider the treasure trove of scripture about thoughts and thinking. God is omniscient, meaning he has all knowledge.

Ps 92:5 O LORD, how great are thy works! and thy thoughts are very deep. 

Knowledge of God involves our thoughts.

1 Chr 28:9 And thou, Solomon my son, know thou the God of thy father, and serve him with a perfect heart and with a willing mind: for the LORD searcheth all hearts, and understandeth all the imaginations of the thoughts: if thou seek him, he will be found of thee; but if thou forsake him, he will cast thee off for ever.

The Psalmist makes a statement in our text that suggests deep and mysterious things in the realm of thought. “In the multitude of my thoughts within me…”

There must come a time, at long last, when we are left alone with our thoughts.  A day when the calendar and clock no longer drive us.  A final moment when life’s interruptions slow to a stop, when we cannot move at will.  When Jack B., tall, strong and commanding, was reduced to confinement by stainless steel rails on a hospital bed, and had lost the ability to do anything but think, what did he think?  None of us know for sure, but I venture some guesses.

He saw his wife beside him and he had to think thoughts of love and appreciation.  He saw his loving children around him and he had to think grateful thoughts.  He saw his grandchildren at this bedside and had proud thoughts.  He saw his brothers and sisters around him and he thought about the closeness of family, their common heritage.  He saw some who made him want to laugh, because they reminded him of something funny.  He saw some who made him sad, because he knew they needed help.  He saw me, and to the amazement of the family, he reached out and shook my hand, an act that called for strength he didn’t have at that point. I hope he had reassuring thoughts.

But seeing is only part of the picture. He heard a lot of things that made him think as well.  He heard the incessant beeps and computerized sounds coming from ICU machines.  He heard groans of pain from nearby wards.  He heard the discussions of his surgeries and prognosis, laden with medical terminology, from doctors and nurses.  But more importantly, he heard the many tender expressions of love and care.

He heard the angelic singing from his family who encircled his bed that memorable Saturday afternoon, after the agonizing decision to put him in the hands of God. What a profound presence of God visited that room!  He heard the comforting words of scripture quoted and read as he prepared to enter the final passageway from this life into the next.  Perhaps the glaze we often saw on his eyes was not always the sedative---perhaps some of the time he was lost in his thoughts. 

Then, left alone in his solitude, where did his thoughts take him?   Jack’s fertile mind must have raced across the spectrum as he responded to the sights and sounds that were his constant company in the last weeks:   The past, the future, and what awaited him as he inched ever closer to eternity.

There are three trains of thought that slowly rumble through our minds as we contemplate the end of this life and the vast unknown beyond.

First, how did I live my life?

Did I take advantage of all the opportunities given me in life?  This is not a reference to the amassing of wealth or the accumulation of things. I was struck by the fact that last Saturday afternoon, it wasn’t houses, lands, cars, boats and clothes that surrounded Jack. The people he loved and who loved him were with him at the end provided him with his greatest comfort and meaning.  Did I love and serve people?  Did I value family, respect life and honor God?  We can’t answer these questions for anyone else.  We have to answer them for ourselves.

Then, is there anything to be afraid of about death?

We think about the pain.  We see death as separation and loss; as the ultimate finality.  Most of us somehow manage to avoid this question throughout our lives.  It’s too heavy, too morbid, too emotional.  Some say just live your life out and forget about death---it will take care of itself.  Some hide behind superficial clichés and non-committal platitudes.  But when you lay on a hospital bed and hear the approaching hoofbeats, it’s a different story.  I know of only one way to take the fear out of death---a personal experience with, and commitment to the Lord Jesus Christ. 

1 Corinthians 15:50 Now this I say, brethren, that flesh and blood cannot inherit the kingdom of God; neither doth corruption inherit incorruption. 51 Behold, I shew you a mystery; We shall not all sleep, but we shall all be changed,  52 In a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trump: for the trumpet shall sound, and the dead shall be raised incorruptible, and we shall be changed.   53 For this corruptible must put on incorruption, and this mortal must put on immortality.

54 So when this corruptible shall have put on incorruption, and this mortal shall have put on immortality, then shall be brought to pass the saying that is written, Death is swallowed up in victory.  55 O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory?   56 The sting of death is sin; and the strength of sin is the law. 57 But thanks be to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. 58 Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye stedfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord.

Finally, is God out there somewhere?

This is where the theories evaporate; the jokes fall flat; the light-hearted comments ring empty.  This is where each one of us will find out for ourselves.  God, are you there?  The Bible gives us the answer with an emphatic yes.

2 Corinthians 5:1-10 “For we know that if our earthly house of this tabernacle were dissolved, we have a building of God, an house not made with hands, eternal in the heavens. 2 For in this we groan, earnestly desiring to be clothed upon with our house which is from heaven:  3 If so be that being clothed we shall not be found naked.  4 For we that are in this tabernacle do groan, being burdened: not for that we would be unclothed, but clothed upon, that mortality might be swallowed up of life.  5 Now he that hath wrought us for the selfsame thing is God, who also hath given unto us the earnest of the Spirit.  6 Therefore we are always confident, knowing that, whilst we are at home in the body, we are absent from the Lord:  7 (For we walk by faith, not by sight:)  8 We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord.  9 Wherefore we labour, that, whether present or absent, we may be accepted of him.  10 For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that every one may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad.”

For believers, to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord. But the fact of God’s presence is not all we have to contemplate.  We have some answering to do.

The writer says, “For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that every one may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad.”

This means that we must prepare for this final encounter while we still live in this body on earth.  I know of no better way---I know of no other way---to do this than the words of the Apostle Peter in Acts 2:38  “Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.”

And so…

How did I live my life?  Is there anything to be afraid of in death?  Is God on the other side?  I’m confident that Jack Bentley, as he sensed his soon departure from this life, from family and friends, had these thoughts running over and over in his mind.  But a funeral is more than a memorial service for a loved one. It is a reminder service for ourselves. Let the multitude of thoughts within you turn you to God so that His comforts may delight your soul.

In closing, indulge me one more passage of scripture:

Psalm 139 (NIV)  1 O LORD, you have searched me and you know me.  2 You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar.  3 You discern my going out and my lying down; you are familiar with all my ways.  4 Before a word is on my tongue you know it completely, O LORD.  5 You hem me in-- behind and before; you have laid your hand upon me.  6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too lofty for me to attain.  7 Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence?  8 If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.  9 If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea,  10 even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast.  11 If I say, "Surely the darkness will hide me and the light become night around me,"  12 even the darkness will not be dark to you; the night will shine like the day, for darkness is as light to you. 13 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb.  14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.  15 My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth,  16 your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.  17 How precious to me are your thoughts, O God! How vast is the sum of them!  18 Were I to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand. When I awake, I am still with you.  23 Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts.  24 See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.

Are you willing to pray this kind of prayer?  If you are, God will take all the fear and anxiety out of both life and death. You can and will be essentially a new person with a new future.

2 Corinthians 5:17 “Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.”

Funeral Message for Woody S.

October 12, 2005

(Woody S., 63, died of throat cancer. He came to church as a small child. He returned late in life and was baptized. His mother was a faithful member of the church for over sixty years.)

Ps 30:1-5

1 I will extol thee, O LORD; for thou hast lifted me up, and hast not made my foes to rejoice over me.  2 O LORD my God, I cried unto thee, and thou hast healed me.  3 O LORD, thou hast brought up my soul from the grave: thou hast kept me alive, that I should not go down to the pit.  4 Sing unto the LORD, O ye saints of his, and give thanks at the remembrance of his holiness.  5 For his anger endureth but a moment; in his favour is life: weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.  (KJV)

Few people are as easy to be around in this life as was Woody S.. He had a comfortable, relaxed attitude about him that put everyone at ease, and he saw the bright side of even the worst situations. He was so naturally good at this that most of us didn’t even know it was happening; we just knew that we liked him and we liked being with him.

Sally put a statement in the obituary that I read to you moments ago about Woody’s great sense of humor. If you didn’t know this, you could just look over the pictures on the display board and you would soon deduce that he loved to have a good laugh. In thinking about this, I came across the following piece:

Scientists have been studying the effect of laughter on human beings and have found, among other things, that laughter has a profound and instantaneous effect on virtually every important organ in the human body. Laughter reduces health-sapping tensions and relaxes the tissues as well as exercising the most vital organs. It is said that laughter, even when forced, results in beneficial effect on us, both mentally and physically. Next time you feel nervous and jittery, indulge in a good laugh.

—Executives’ Digest

Proverbs 17:22 says, “A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones.”

I think Woody found that laughter not only made him feel better, it made everyone else feel better too. He could be serious when he had to, but he couldn’t stay serious for too long. The last few months were a real challenge to his sense of humor, but never let his suffering, his pain or his depressing circumstances steal his buoyant spirit. He understood that life could deal some hard blows, but he drew a boundary around his spirit and said, “you can come this far, but no farther.”

Woody would have appreciated the story about a man who was very sick. “Looking down at him, the doctor decided to tell him the truth. "I feel that I should tell you. You are a very sick man, I'm sure that you would want to know the facts. Now -- is there anyone you would like to see?" Bending towards his patient, the doctor heard him feebly answer, "Yes." "Who is it?" asked the doctor. In a slightly stronger tone the man said, "Another doctor."

When someone is laughing you can’t control them. You can’t be afraid and laugh at the same time. (Christine Emmerling)

Woody’s sense of humor should not be taken as evidence that he didn’t appreciate the deep and solemn truths of life. Never was this more in evidence than March 7, 1996 when he had his open heart surgery. I stood by his bedside and held his hand as we prayed. He knew that the success or failure of his surgery was more in the hands of the Great Physician than it was the cardiologist.

Eight years later to the day, March 7, 2004, I held Woody’s hand again as he descended into the waters of baptism and I baptized him in the name that outshines every name, the name of Jesus. I believe he saw the end approaching and he realized that he needed to face the sobering truth of his mortality. Raised by a praying mother, he knew only too well what he must do. On many occasions after that day, he prayed and worshipped God, even though he couldn’t go to church. He assured his mother that he had made his peace with God,.

Sometimes we laugh because something funny happens. Sometimes we laugh because it hurts too much to cry. It becomes a way for us to manage our pain and sorrow.

Psalms 30:5 says that “Weeping may endure for a night.” The word “night: may also read "in the evening." The word rendered "endure" means properly "to lodge, to sojourn," as one does for a little time. The idea is, that weeping is like a stranger-- a wayfaring person or lodger-- who lodges for a night only. In other words, sorrow will soon pass away to be succeeded by joy.

Sorrow and weeping should not be considered a permanent guest, or lodger.  God will not put upon us any more than we can bear.  The unwelcome guest of sorrow, though we want him to leave, teaches us valuable lessons:  He displaces the foolishness and carelessness that often clutters our lives.  He teaches us to set our priorities.  He teaches us to savor the preciousness of life.  He makes us contemplate our values and meaning.  He forces us to our knees in prayer.  The tears of sorrow become a cleansing agent for the soul.

"Every sorrow is the shadow of God's hand." Robert Browning Hamilton

I walked a mile with Pleasure,

She chattered all the way;

But she left me none the wiser,

For all she had to say.

I walked a mile with Sorrow,

And ne'er a word said she;

But, oh, the things I learned from her

When Sorrow walked with me! -Robert Browning Hamilton

The most fearful thing about sorrow is not that he came, but that he stayed.  The most tragic result of sorrow is that he would drive us farther from God instead of closer to God.

When night is over.

“But joy cometh in the morning.” The word in the margin is singing. It expresses the force of the original word of joy. There will be singing, shouting, exultation.

In Barns Notes, we find, “If we have the friendship of God, sorrow will always be temporary, and will always be followed by joy. The morning will come; a morning without clouds; a morning when the sources of sorrow will disappear. This often occurs in the present life; it will always occur to the righteous in the life to come. The sorrows of this life are but for a moment, and they will be succeeded by the light and the joy of heaven. Then, if not before, all the sorrows of the present life, however long they may appear to be, will seem to have been but for a moment; weeping, though it MAY have made life here but one unbroken night, will be followed by one eternal day without a sigh or a tear.” (from Barnes' Notes)

[Joy (cometh) ...] "Weeping" gives place to "joy," a new and better guest. (from Jamieson, Fausset, and Brown Commentary)

Joy will come.

But joy, untempered by sorrow, is a cheap thrill.  When joy comes out of sorrow, he pays full fare.  When joy comes in, he pulls back the dark curtains, allowing the light to flood in. Joy throws open the window that sorrow tightly shut, and forces out the gloom.  Joy is the rainbow, the silver lining, the refreshing breeze.  Joy brings comfort, relief and healing.  Joy restores laughter to the stern furrowed faces.  Joy changes the mood of the people, the atmosphere of the room and the disposition of the soul.  Joy lifts our sights from the heartache around us to the heaven above us.  Joy reminds us that our past and present will not drown us in depair.  Where does joy get its power to perform these miracles?

The Prophet Isaiah said,

Isa 12:1-6 On that day you will say, "Praise the Lord! He was angry with me, but now he comforts me.  2 See, God has come to save me! I will trust and not be afraid, for the Lord is my strength and song; he is my salvation.  3 Oh, the joy of drinking deeply from the Fountain of Salvation!"  4 In that wonderful day you will say, "Thank the Lord! Praise his name! Tell the world about his wondrous love. How mighty he is!"  5 Sing to the Lord, for he has done wonderful things. Make known his praise around the world.  6 Let all the people of Jerusalem shout his praise with joy. For great and mighty is the Holy One of Israel, who lives among you.  (TLB)

The joy of the Lord comes from an obscure birth two thousand years ago.  The joy of the Lord comes from a Sinless Sacrifice on Calvary.  The joy of the Lord comes from an empty tomb.  The joy of the Lord comes from an altar of repentance, the waters of baptism in the Name of Jesus, the life-giving entrance of the Holy Spirit into your heart.  Sorrow must leave. Joy now may come in. 

Joy has a name---the precious name of Jesus!

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[1] The Holy Bible : King James Version. 1995 (electronic ed. of the 1769 edition of the 1611 Authorized Version.) (1 Ki 8:12). Bellingham WA: Logos Research Systems, Inc.

[2] Tan, P. L. (1996, c1979). Encyclopedia of 7700 illustrations : [a treasury of illustrations, anecdotes, facts and quotations for pastors, teachers and Christian workers]. Garland TX: Bible Communications.